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The stages of coming out

Although there is a difference of opinion about the stages of coming out, it usually goes through the following. As with everything else, academic scholars of gay studies disagree on some of the finer points, but overall the stages I mention here are nearly universal. I have seen theories with 5, 6, 12 and even up to 18 output stages. Some theories try to give each stage a new academic-sounding name, but in my 8 stages each word relates to a well-known and acceptable phase of human development.

  1. The realization stage

The first stage is when you realize that something in you is different. You may know that you have a homosexual tendency, but you still deny it. Rationalizing is a big part of this stage. You can tell yourself that this is just a phase, that it will pass, that you are only slightly in love with one person, that it is normal to love anyone, but that this feeling inside you does not mean that you are totally gay. . You might consider the idea that you are bisexual and that you can still have a heterosexual relationship.

  1. The Recognition Stage

The second stage is where you recognize a pattern within yourself. You realize that you are attracted to members of the same gender and not the opposite. You understand that this attraction is not going to go away and that it is not directed at just one individual. You recognize aspects of your personality and preferences that make perfect sense in terms of your sexual orientation. Suddenly you understand things about yourself that you didn’t understand before.

  1. The stage of individual sharing

Until this point, everything only happened inside your mind, but in the third stage you feel the need to share it with someone else. It could be your mom, a good friend, or a therapist, but you know it’s time to share it with someone. Within you you still have some doubts and that is why it is time to review your thoughts. If the person you share it with is surprised, it may take you back to stage one. That is why it is important that you choose the right person to share it with.

  1. The public exchange scenario

If you’ve successfully completed the third stage, you’ll want to share it with more people, perhaps your family, most of your friends, or someone else you trust. Remember that the closet is always right behind you and there will be some people with whom you will never share it. This is not a problem; no one says you should publish it in the local newspaper. This stage can continue for the rest of your life because there will always be new people to share it with.

  1. The socialization stage

The fifth stage is when you start socializing with other gay people. Some gay people take years to reach this stage because they struggle to meet other gay people and/or are too afraid to go to gay socials, prides, or clubs. Like the proverbial flower on the wall waiting for someone to invite them over, you can sit in your corner waiting for the gay community to come to you. This could be a very lonely time in the life of any gay person and my advice would be to get through this stage as quickly as possible. Do not be afraid, there will always be someone gay with whom you can identify.

  1. The stage of the relationship

After you started meeting other gay people, you could end up in a relationship. The same advice any therapist will give a teen in her first relationship goes with you, too. Nobody’s first relationship is the last. If the relationship goes wrong, it is part of life. It’s best not to walk away from other gay people and move on without regrets. Whatever your age, your first gay relationship means you’re still a teenager in the gay world. Yes, there are people who met a couple and it became a lifelong relationship, but they are the exception.

  1. The stage of self-realization

Self-actualization is the stage where you make peace with who you are. Some people never get to this stage and it’s a shame. Knowing yourself, accepting yourself and loving yourself is a crucial stage in everyone’s life, whether they are gay or straight. It’s not something that happens in your twenties, so don’t fear if you’re not there yet. Self-actualization is something that takes years to achieve in the lives of gay and straight people. If your parents don’t accept you for being gay, it might even take longer, because an important element in anyone’s self-fulfillment is that your parents accept you.

  1. The normalization stage

Self-actualization is the stage where you fully accept yourself. To a certain extent, life begins after self-realization. The seven stages above are all about accepting the fact that you are gay, but normalization is the point where you realize that you are gay, but that being gay is not all there is to life. It is the moment when you integrate into society as a whole. Being gay is no longer a problem, the problem is that you are human, you have a role to play and you can become part of the whole world without thinking, advertising or mentioning your sexual orientation. If someone asks you if you are gay, you admit it and whether or not they accept it is no longer a problem. After all, you are much more than a sexual being.

Quick and effective steps to easily change your feelings (Part 1)

Every time we experience problems it is due to our own feelings. If we continue to feel helpless in the same situation, this indicates that our feelings have become habituated and we have had no choice in how to respond.

However, this will change, will it not? You may be curious about the new and simple technique shown below. 😉

People often intend to change their limiting feeling responses, but unfortunately get stuck in behavior patterns by talking to themselves and others with “why?” Questions.

“Why do I keep feeling like this in that situation?!” “Why can’t I change?” etc.

oops! These types of thoughts tend to create neurotic loops.

Another way that is often more helpful (ie, gets a desired result) is to modify the structure of the thought pattern.

If you think about it, all of our thoughts can only be made up of the five senses. Visuals, Sounds, Feelings, Smells, Flavors. Perhaps even the so-called subtle energy experienced in healing systems like Reiki is still experienced by the mind within the five senses.

By becoming aware of some of the specific features of a thought process, we can change that structure. For example, we might find out whether the images we were making in our heads were still images or black-and-white or full-color movies.

The following technique allows us to change our feelings by representing them in sounds. Go ahead and check out the technique now, I’ll give you a little explanation later.

music tempo changer

1. Choose a situation in which you have a certain feeling that limits your ability to respond with choice.

2. Become aware of the feelings in your body. Where do you feel the feelings? Notice how the feelings move.

3. If you allowed yourself to represent feelings in music, what music would you listen to? Just let some music come to your mind.

4. As you listen to the music inside your mind, pay special attention to the rhythm.

5. Now think about how you want to feel instead of the current feeling. What kind of rhythm represents that desired feeling? Now listen to new music with that new beat.

6. Keep playing the new music in your head while you think about the situation you chose in step 1. Five to twenty seconds is usually enough.

OK that’s great, now think of something totally different like what did you have for breakfast yesterday?

And now think about the situation you selected in step 1 and see how your feelings have changed.

Representing feelings as music allowed us to become aware of a rhythmic structure. And because we associate that musical beat with our feelings, they changed when we changed the beat!

Nice, simple and effective, right?

Now what would happen if you applied this technique on 3 other ‘constraints’? Would your unconscious begin to learn the strategy and then begin to generalize the pattern to other areas of your life or would it begin to happen while you sleep and dream?

Now, WHY would be a useful question to ask now?

A princess tent for your royal girl

Fairy tale stories have continuously stimulated the minds of young girls. And there is nothing better to play to represent a fairy tale than having a princess tent.

I think just about every little girl has at some point imagined herself as a graceful princess from a kingdom far, far away, so I bet yours is no different. You just can’t discover a more effective approach to help her create her dreams than having her very own play tent with an enchanting princess castle. Reproduced from actual images of authentic palaces and castles from bygone eras and designed with them in mind, these types of children’s playhouses evoke the feeling of a royal royal residence for your own young child.

Can you remember the time when you were a child? In all likelihood, she would have loved to have her own princess playhouse. I remember buying Christmas dolls for my own little girl, and I enjoyed all of them as much or maybe more than she did! With a princess castle play tent, you can have fun together with your little princess, or maybe let her create her own fantasy tales by herself and also together with her friends as well as her brothers and sisters. . .

Using the symbolic representation of luxury, royalty and wealth, princess play tents develop emotions and feelings of confidence in every little princess wannabe. She will be able to feel better about herself and her self-esteem as well. Her imagination can soar to distant medieval times and to fearless knights, riding to slay dragons and save damsels in distress.

Most tents are made with fairytale-inspired designs and graphics, along with inspired decorations. Your little one’s imagination is definitely fired up, while providing a safe sanctuary and, in case he wants to close the flaps that most tents have, a sense of personal privacy.

Made of different materials, sizes, and designs, tents are generally quick to set up and take down. Many usually set around 30 minutes. Because they are portable, they fit in a variety of areas within your home or backyard. If you own the space inside your home, you can also keep it long-term or place it in your little one’s bedroom, meaning you can enjoy it every time the medieval trumpets speak to you. Some are big enough to sleep in when you need a nap and dream of your next getaway.

Your favorite little princess will be delighted to have her own personal tent or playhouse. Help her experience her own imaginary tale along with her happily ever after conclusion!

If you’ve decided to get the royal girl in your life her very own princess tent, you’ll want to figure out which of the many varieties isn’t a good fit. The reviews are shockingly horrible.

The role black churches must play in helping children at risk

In his book, “The Audacity of Hope,” presidential candidate Barack Obama writes that the administration could drive change by transforming attitudes in communities of the urban poor, who are largely made up of African Americans and Latinos. This transformation of attitudes must begin in homes, communities and places of worship. The Black Church has been fulfilling this role throughout its history, but it is one that is taking on new perspectives of responsibility and accountability in the 21st century.

A vital role the Church can play in the Black community’s attempt to save its young men and women from lives of poverty, drugs, abuse, and prison is to educate the unsuccessful in society. While the Black Church may celebrate the achievements of those who have found their Savior and solace within its walls, it must now take to the highways and hedgerows to invite the “least of these” to come to the banquet that many have been excluded. for too long. With the achievements and accomplishments of many in the community, the Church can now admit that our circumstances have helped shape our culture, and that we can now choose to change our culture by reshaping our circumstances. Now we can give a new definition of what it means to be “black and proud.”

As a pastor, I know that churches in America are already doing a good job of feeding and clothing the poor. But we can and must do more when confronted with the fact that in some of our cities 65 percent of young black men do not graduate from high school and on average nationally; only 2 percent reach the goal of earning a college degree.

In the Book of Matthew, Chapter 18, Jesus speaks of his disciples’ obligation to serve and protect “the little ones.” To achieve that goal, we must do everything we can to serve the most vulnerable people in society: the children who are so often left behind.

How can we do this?

The Church must act as a school and discipline in a similar way to what happens in the Jewish community. After their public school day ends, Jewish children go to Hebrew school several days a week to supplement their education. Instead of blaming the shortcomings of the public school system, churches should help young black children develop the ability to read and process information from the earliest possible age. If we wait too long, children may find it difficult to resist the insidious lure of the street.

Parents must be involved so that they understand the importance of sending their children to Church school and support the Church’s efforts to educate and discipline their children so that they know what it means to be black and educated. Parents often think they can save their children on their own, particularly after they have lost several children to drugs, crime, and premature deaths. Many times they try to protect their children from doing the hard work necessary to overcome their life circumstances.

In its school, the Church must provide the support individuals and families need to survive and thrive despite the trauma, drama, tragedies, and abuse found in our homes, communities, and culture. We must teach all people to refuse to be defeated by the injustices and inequalities of life. We must instill in young people pride in being human, playing fair and overcoming all obstacles to make a contribution to the world. We must recognize that doing so is heroic and worthy of sacrifice and we must celebrate the heroism of those who model this behavior.

In the past, people who suffered from cultural and community pathologies, such as dysfunctional homes, domestic violence, and physical and sexual abuse, were often treated as second-class citizens of the Church. People who suffered and continue to suffer childhood abuse and other traumas, especially young men, were forced to fend for themselves. This has led to the growth of gangs and other subcultures within our communities, which are now destroying not only the lives of those involved, but our communities as well.

Pastors must make it clear that the Church is available to help and heal all and that no one will be turned away for their past indiscretions. Pastors must make it clear that the days of masking these problems are gone forever; these problems must be brought to the light of day and healed.

It is also time for the black community to stop reeling from things that other communities have already found solutions for. It’s time for the black community to start implementing new ideas instead of sweeping problems under the proverbial rug. It must start with all of us in all of our Churches throughout black America.

Dr. Dennis L. Waters is Pastor/President of Spirit of Victory and Praise Community Church in Gaithersburg, Maryland and Pastor/President of Spirit, Victory, Praise Ministries. SVP Ministries helps people overcome the shame, guilt, and grief of past tragedy, trauma, and loss by drawing on tools and techniques for healing from major Christian faiths, including meditation and dialogue affirmations. internal. His latest book is “I Will Restore: A Ministry of Healing to African American Male Survivors of Prepubescent Physical and Sexual Abuse.”

Product Review: EzWebBusinessBuilder Instructional CD-ROM

While the web is full of information on how we can emulate the successes of others and become millionaires, or never have to work for a boss again, occasionally there are shows that really stand out. Such a program is ezWebBusinessBuilder produced by JDD Publishing Co which I recently bought and tested.

Why does ezWebBusinessBuilder stand out? Because it’s refreshingly different; innovative and based on solid educational principles. Most products just tell you what to do to get rich using strategies said to have been discovered by their authors while creating their own success. This product does that too, but combines it with the far superior Explain-Demonstrate-Practice (EDP) instructional strategy. Not only that, the support resources provided on the JDD Publishing site are excellent.

JDD Publishing’s product consists of a single CD-ROM attractively presented in a nice slipcase. On the CD are 18 videos that guide users through the process of researching and identifying products to sell online, selecting a domain name and producing a sales site, optimizing the site for search engines, analyzing eight different ways to market your products and much more. .

Each video has a show and features an animated character (wearing a blue suit and red tie no less!) who walks you through the process and then disappears in a puff of smoke (literally!). Then follows a link to a page on the JDD Publishing site for “Perform homework from video xx.”

Since Video One through Video 18 topics describe a linear process, simply follow the videos in order and then perform the “Perform Task…” function to implement each step in a logical sequence. It is easy to understand and very easy to do. There’s even a free web design software package for those who don’t have one.

As is common with JDD Publishing media, it is of high quality and works effectively and efficiently. It gets monotonous to watch the 18 videos of the little man in the blue suit, but at the end of the day, if you want to establish an internet presence and make money selling your own products or those of others, ezWebBusinessBuilder will help you take a giant leap in the right direction. . In fact, it would be hard to fail if you follow this recipe.

As an educator, I am impressed with the instructional style, simplicity, and great content that has been built into this product. At less than $100 USD, it is good value for money and comparable to many other less user-friendly products costing the same.

If you want to set up a web business or convert an existing business to the web, all you need to do, according to the CD cover, is “simply insert this CD into your computer and build your web business, step by step.” . . ..when you’ve completed all the steps, you’ll have a functioning and growing internet business!” I agree, but I have to go now…another site to build.

Copyright 2005 Robin Henry

Common mistakes when developing mobile applications

If someone asked me to describe mobile development, I would say that it is the process of making portable devices that are as useful as computers and can get better over time. That is exactly what is happening. Recent studies show that there are around 112 million users in India, which represents a growth of 13% from last year. The research organization also predicts that there may be an addition of 11 million by the end of this year.

But the interesting news from this research is that in 2010, there were only 1% of people using the internet on their mobiles, which went from 3% in 2011 to 8% in 2012. Looking at these trends and the exponential growth , it is predicted that there will be about 600 million mobile Internet users worldwide.

All these surveys sum up that mobile development has become one of the fastest growing and competitive markets. Mobile phones have become the center of the world, since companies and individuals cannot survive without them with all possible communication and social networks through it. Smartphones in particular are getting the kind of attention that declining computers once received. Laptops and desktops have become impractical options for the rather obvious reason that they can’t be kept in your pockets. So we have many reasons why this generation will like to do everything on a mobile platform.

Although there are enough mobile development platforms available, there are few common and popular ones. Some of them are:

Symbian-OS it is one of the favorite platforms among developers for its fast response in real time. It is designed and maintained by Nokia.

android is another platform based on the modified version of LINUX Kernel that has revolutionized the mobile market. The Android Java-based app is easier to use.

Blackberry OS, as its name indicates, is a proprietary platform for the use of Blackberry devices. Research in Motion (RIM) also allows third-party developers to write their own software using Blackberry’s Application Programming Interface (API).

Apple is a development platform for creating apps for iPhones and iPads. It is a UNIX-based operating system derived from the Macintosh OS.

windows phone it is the latest platform to come from the computer giant Microsoft. It uses a design language called Metro that allows developers to integrate the operating system with third-party services.

Of course, with so many platforms available, there are thousands or perhaps millions of applications that can be created. Everyone is trying to create their own app but the learning process is never complete without understanding the common pitfalls related to it. These days I see so many apps with features that are not really important. There are some common mistakes that I would suggest avoiding during the mobile development process.

Fill too many features-

This is one of the most common mistakes that is often made by new mobile developers or often by experienced developers who can’t resist the urge to add everything they have. As a developer, you need to understand what you want your app to do, what its unique features should be, and how it will benefit and serve your users.

It is very important that the first version of your app only addresses the immediate requirements of the user or company you are developing the app for. Adding more features can always be done in the next versions of your app. Constant updating of its app also makes it look professional and popular among users.

Creating complicated user interfaces-

The first version of your app should be intuitive and easy to use. A perfect interface should be such that the user learns it simply by using it without referring to the user manual. The average mobile user may not be very tech-savvy. He or she just wants to enjoy the features their device has to offer. So keep in mind that all the aspects, screens, buttons and functions of your application must be well defined to make their lives easier and more enjoyable.

Of course, there are some applications with complicated interfaces that have been very successful among users. But it would be better to start slow with simple apps and go for the innovative apps once you have a name in the market. It is important to provide a manual with a detailed instruction section for applications with a complicated user interface.

Working on too many mobile platforms-

It is important that mobile developers do not start creating applications for all mobile platforms. Adding too many features and platforms to your single version will increase your initial costs. You need to do extensive research and plan your strategies in advance if you want to develop your app for different platforms like Blackberry, Android, Apple altogether.

I Will Not Listen to the Nightingale – Khushwant Singh: A Story of Baptism in Blood

Sher Singh killed a skull. I wanted to be a terrorist. But there was baptism in his blood. He felt the crane. If one crane dies, the other dies of injury. His instigator is Madan. Madan feels that if there is baptism in blood, that blood must be shed. Sher Singh and Madan were training to shoot the English. This short novel by Khushwant Singh is about the Sikh community who created a military brotherhood to fight against the British. The Sikhs were defeated by the British in six successive battles. However, after being defeated, the Sikhs were drafted into the British Army for their valor and honor. The Sikhs believed that ‘God is truth’.

The story is ultimately about love, kindness, and peace despite terrorism, revolt, and militancy. This is represented by the symbol of the angry crane that loses its partner. Even as Sher Singh fills hand grenades and rifles, he thinks of the injured bird. So the story is ultimately about the ineffectiveness of terrorism and violence and the message of peace.

Sher Singh was the son of a high-ranking magistrate and the leader of a gang of terrorists. He had revealed both identities for so long, but now he had to make a decision. The concern was what to choose, security or terrorism.

Sher Singh’s house was a haven of comfort and security. His mother and sister represented feelings of comfort and security. But Sher Singh was at odds with his father Buta Singh politically. They differ in their opinions regarding the British. Buta Singh is basically a supporter of the British. He believes in mutual aid between the British and Sikhs. On the other hand, Sher Singh thinks that there are many Gandhis and Nehrus who should be followed, not the British. Buta Singh can’t change his loyalties at his age. But he is realizing that the nationalists need support. In fact, his loyalty to the British was taken as servility. He was being double-sided accused.

The story is basically about the tension between the British and the Sikhs which the author has brought out through a vivid graph of conversations, revolutionary speeches, meetings and so on. It turns out that there are two parties, the anti-British and the pro-British. The older generation of Sikhs is pro-British. The younger generation is trying to finish off the British. There were Hindus like Madan who were instigators of terrorism. Young aspiring leaders danced to Madan songs and packed hand grenades.

Along with the general political background, the story very simply traces the private lives of Sher Singh, Beena, Champak and Madan. Sher Singh, being a failure in his marital relationship, tries to please his wife by aspiring to a high position in politics, becoming a political leader, hero and terrorist. Bina, her sister, is passionately in love with the tall, handsome and charming Madan, from whom she gets a stinker. Madan, a married man who pretends to be very concerned about the country, has a passionate illicit relationship with his friend’s wife, Champak, and instigates his friend Sher Singh to become a hero and terrorist.

Terrorist attacks are planned, a few bridges are blown up, a few roads are blocked, a few brilliant speeches are made, and finally a murder is committed. Sher Singh is arrested and jailed. There, the spoiled child of the family is tortured, beaten and mocked by the Anglo-Saxon Indians. The would-be hero does some dumb shit and ends up in prison.

Sher Singh’s mother, a profoundly worthy lady in spirit and soul, fasts to near death praying for her son’s release. John Taylor, the British ICS and his wife, both a bit of a different kind of British, sympathetic to the Indians, representatives of British Solidarity, worship Sher Singh’s mother and release her son. Thus, ultimately, history proves that terrorism, violence, and heroism are just children’s fantasies. What really solves is the beauty of the spirit, the spirit of love and prayer, the belief that ‘God is Truth’. Kushwant Singh’s short novel under the cloak of politics, murder, terrorism, revolution and heroism shows the ineffectiveness of all this and the triumph of peace and God.

What challenges do you face in improving business processes?

Any time you introduce change to an organization, challenges can arise. Business process improvement (BPI) is no different. Anytime a process changes, you can expect a rejection from someone! So what are the different challenges you might face and how can you overcome them?

1. Prioritization of work: When there are multiple opportunities, it can be difficult to identify the biggest opportunity. on NBC the big loser, you can easily see who has the biggest problem! You can accomplish the same thing with business processes by creating a Process Prioritization Matrix.

Combine your list, or inventory, of processes and prioritization criteria into a single spreadsheet, using rows to list business processes and columns to list criteria. If you don’t have established criteria to help you prioritize, identify some by thinking about the impact, current state, and value of existing processes as a starting point. Start your improvement efforts with the highest scoring process.

2. Avoid scope creep: Once you start working on a single business process, you can easily get sidetracked from the original focus of the work. Have you ever started a project at home and then found that one thing leads to another? This happens all the time in BPI work because new ideas, demands, and needs arise as you come into the job, and the temptation is to continually expand the scope of a BPI effort.

Before you start working on improving a business process, establish a foundation for your work. Similar to building a house, where the foundation supports the weight of the entire structure, the process”Flat” will help you avoid scope creep. While you can do this in a variety of ways, I find it helpful to create a one-page document that includes, at a minimum:

  • a description of the process that anyone can understand
  • the process boundaries (where the process begins and ends)
  • the client and their needs
  • a list of measures of success

3. Involve people: In the perfect world, you have sponsorship for BPI, but this doesn’t always exist. Colleagues may not see “what’s in it for me,” or you may not have a culture of improvement in your organization.

Employees have to “own” process improvement to achieve sustained success because that’s where ENERGY of business process improvement is found! Until everyone in an organization sees BPI as part of their normal daily responsibilities, process improvement will always come and go.

While managers clearly have a role (they are also employees), their responsibility lies in creating the right environment for process improvement. The problem with this idea, however, is that many managers got to where they are today because of their ability to generate results as individual contributors.

All managers should include BPI in their annual performance plan and have part of their year-end review focused on their achievements in this area. However, they can’t see BPI as an “event” that they can bookmark: it’s a process, just like anything else!

4. Managing difficult people: During any BPI effort, you’ll find someone you probably wish would “go away.” You may be wondering why they resist change or display negative behavior.

you should discover the fountain your colleague’s concern. Forget about the BPI for a minute and try to identify what the person values and then match the BPI benefits to those values. For example, if a colleague values ​​job security, you should show him how BPI will allow him to keep his job, perhaps doing more value-added work. Once you connect results to values, you can overcome almost any challenge.

5. Change of priorities: As new management enters an organization, priorities can change. So how can you stay focused on BPI?

The key is to stay focused on the client. If a new manager comes in who only seems to care about the bottom line, take the time to explicitly link “BIS,” “customers,” and the “bottom line.” Only customers contribute to a company’s profits and they keep this concept at the core of everything they do.

6. Criticize your improvement technique: Sometimes colleagues prefer to use another improvement method than the one you think. You may be faced with the dilemma of which one has a better reputation on your computer. Is it Lean, Six Sigma, Reengineering, Lean Six Sigma, or something else?

Actually, most enhancement techniques boil down to “qualityAll techniques have the same goal: to achieve improvements in the delivery of a product or service to the customer, and they all have a connection to the Total Quality Management (TQM) movement. While the various techniques have some differences, you will see more similarities than differences. You should feel free to take the best of several techniques, combine them, and select a name that works for your organization.

Copyright 2011 Susan Page

Homemade Michael Jackson Billie Jean Halloween Costume

Many people plan to pay tribute to the one and only King of Pop by dressing up as him in one of his extraordinary costumes this Halloween. There are several costume stores that sell a wide variety of Michael Jackson costumes. However, you can add more weight to its importance by wearing your own homemade Michael Jackson costume.

The materials you need to make your own costume are a black jacket, a black undershirt, black pants, a white glove, and white socks. These can be purchased at your favorite clothing store. You also need several packages of large size glittery silver and black sequins, small size silver sequins, glue, glue stick, and a glue gun found at any craft store. This is how you can make your own homemade Michael Jackson Billie Jean costume:

First step: the jacket

Recreate Michael Jackson’s Billie Jean Jacket by removing the collar portion of the jacket and simply sew the removed portion back together. Then completely cover the jacket in large, sparkly black sequins using a glue stick and glue gun. Stick each of the sequins on the surface of the jacket. Just be careful when handling the glue gun as it can be hot. Large sequins will decrease the time to completely cover the entire jacket with sequins.

Second step: the shirt

Once the jacket is ready, do the same with the black t-shirt. This time, keep the necklace on and use large silver sequins instead of the black ones. Glue each of the sequins onto the black t-shirt. There is no order to follow when placing the sequins on the shirt. As long as it covers the entire shirt, then you’re doing a great job.

Third Step – The Pants

Choose matching black pants that are short for your height, but fit well at the waist. Michael Jackson’s hanging pants are one of his popular trademarks. However, if you have your own black pants that you don’t wear yet, you can cut them shorter and sew the pants underneath.

Fourth step: the one-piece glove and socks

Make your own one-piece sparkly gloves and socks by covering them with tiny silver sequins. Since the sequins are quite small, it can be dangerous to use a glue gun to attach them. Maybe you can use fabric glue and glue them onto the glove and socks. Let them dry overnight before using them to ensure their hold.

Now, put on your black shoes, do your jheri-curl, and do your makeup. Practice his moonwalk dance move and you’ll be ready to become Michael Jackson with your very own homemade Billie Jean Halloween costume. This is an easier homemade costume to make than any other Halloween costume. You can sure pay homage to your favorite pop star with this homemade Billie Jean costume.

Are you telegraphing despair?

How does it feel to walk past a homeless person? If you said you wanted to laugh, you’re an idiot. The interesting thing is that most of us don’t feel sorry for the bum, we just get depressed. I know for me, I actually feel a bit sad. And if I don’t give him money, I feel a little guilty. It’s just a negative experience. But the key is that pity is not a big factor here. Instead, you want to get away as quickly as you can to avoid those negative feelings.

This is an extreme example, but it’s that same need, that same pathetic beggar energy that turns women away from insecure losers. We all have a little need in us. As a man, you WANT to sleep with women. If it wasn’t, you’d be gay. It’s okay to want, as long as you don’t get into dangerous territory. Which you probably ARE, because almost all men do. Hell, I still do it from time to time. Especially if it’s an Asian woman with a big rack. But I won’t be obvious. I can watch too long. It’s okay if she doesn’t catch me. But if you do, you’ll have a little idea of ​​that pressure, that “please, give me, give me” you feel when you walk past bums begging for a penny.

That’s how you know you’re being needy around women.

They ignore you when you try to talk to them. They whisper to their friends as they look at you. They make faces when they see you looking at them. They give you one word answers. They won’t give you their number. They stop calling/texting you. They kick you out They get a restraining order.

You are NAPPY if you have experienced any of the above! (Wait, what?) Let me explain.

There’s a term in psychology called “need for social approval.” Describes the mental process of needing to be liked by others in order to feel a sense of well-being. And it is indirectly related, that is, it is the opposite of healthy, social and successful behavior. In fact, the greater the need for social approval you have, the less effective you will be in almost every aspect of your life, except turning people away from you. The layman’s term is “insecurity.” And it’s “people repellant”.

But back to “diaper?” The need for social approval is shortened to the term “nApp”. So, being the super creative guy that I am, I’m going to start calling students “diapers” when I feel like the need is holding them back.

Call yourself, the next time you feel that need creeping in. This is actually a great inside game technique. Instead of beating yourself up, see the humor in what you did and playfully point out the craziness in it. Laugh about it. Recognize how foolish it is to try to make a stranger you JUST MET like you. Why would you do it? You don’t even know them! Maybe all they like are things you don’t like. In that case, wouldn’t they like you to be something bad?

Seriously, the most common way guys telegraph diapering is in the tracking game. You mustered up the courage to reach out, you pushed through that whole conversation, you remembered to climb, you got his number. She was SO HOT. You can’t mess it up, especially after all that work! So you try to make a prank over text, so he doesn’t forget about you. But it’s too soon, and she doesn’t get the joke. So wait, maybe 15 minutes. Maybe he was offended! Better call and explain. So you call. And leaving a long voicemail. And then you feel stupid and send another text apologizing for the voicemail, justifying it by saying that you really like her and didn’t mean to make her mad. Enough! Fix your tracking game. Don’t let another number go to waste.