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History of competitive mixed wrestling

When you think of competitive mixed wrestling, the first thing that comes to mind is Andy Kaufman and his comedic antics. However, the sport dates back to the 1950s. For most, it may seem difficult to imagine women in the ring in this era of June Cleaver’s manly men and wives. The women who stepped into the ring in the 1950s helped clear the way for the men and women who compete in the sport today.

The promoters, however, have done their homework and now cater to the more feminine side of their audience. Not only are the ladies of today aspiring for belts and championships developed specifically with them in mind, but some are even jumping in and competing for the men’s titles as well. It goes without saying that the ladies of the sport have more than proven that girls are more than just sugar and spices; in fact, that concept was abandoned a long time ago.

The rules for these events have changed a bit over the years. A man and a woman can no longer fight each other in a tag team match. In the event that a person of the opposite sex is tagged, the other team must tag the person of the same sex. There are no options, and if it is not done in a timely manner, there will be repercussions. It can be assumed that the reasoning for these new rules stems from the contradictory belief that the parties themselves are unfair to women. In reality, one only has to take a good look and realize that these women can do more than take care of themselves.

Women have also made sure not to allow sport to overtake their femininity or beauty. WWE has even gone so far as to call their wrestling beauties Divas. Divas can not only kick but also in the ring, but many of them can even manage other wrestlers and even run companies related to the world of wrestling.

Rest assured that the wonderful sport of mixed competitive wrestling will remain, as always, interesting and fair to everyone involved. Although the changes will keep coming, men and women will continue to do what they do very well while continuing to add more excitement and excitement to the sport as time goes on. So whether you’re a more well-known promoter or some of the lesser-known independent promoters, this sport is a must see for anyone interested in the world of wrestling.

About Amir Khan: How would you look with a new coach?

Yesterday I read the following two articles on Bleacher Report; “Amir Khan takes the blame for the loss of Danny Garcia, could he part ways with Freddie Roach” and “Amir Khan and Freddie Roach are about to part ways?”, And I started thinking about the best possible coaches for Amir Khan. Today I know Khan will not leave Roach, as I read in today’s Bleacher Report, “Amir Khan stays with Freddie Roach, no one is fired for the Garcia fight”, however I thought this would be a fun analysis.

Now I don’t think Freddy Roach is the one Messiah many in the media have put him through, but he is a great coach who studied with the immortal Eddie Futch, and has shown that he can help a fighter. resurrect his career (pun intended). It would probably be a mistake to leave the coach who helped him on his first comeback after the loss to Breidis Prescott, so regrouping with Roach doesn’t seem like such a bad idea.

However, despite the glass jaw, Khan is a great talent, and it would be interesting to see what he would look like after working with some of the best coaches in boxing. I’m not trying to imply that any of these coaches are better than Roach. I’m simply looking at the flaws in Khan’s style, along with what he can do better, and I’m discussing how the elements these trainers bring to the table can help Khan improve as a fighter.

Floyd Mayweather Sr.
Floyd Mayweather Sr. is the architect of the Floyd Mayweather Jr. style, and let’s be honest; We still don’t really know what kind of chin Floyd Jr. has. Given the situation, anything that can be added to Khan’s defense is an advantage. In addition to being able to move very quickly with your feet, you could move your head, and more importantly, think about bending your chin down rather than moving straight in with your chin exposed. Tactics like these would significantly reduce the chance of a knockout loss.

Roger mayweather
In the Yahoo Sports post “Roger Mayweather Offers Amir Khan Some Advice – Fan Reaction”, Roger had some positive words for Khan, offering tips to help him come back from a knockout. This made me think of Roger in Khan’s coaching position.
Roger would help Kahn the same way his brother would, but the difference is that Roger is better than Floyd Sr. on offense. This means that in addition to having more defensive tools, Khan would likely have less of a problem holding down opponents at the end of his shots.

Pedro diaz
The interesting thing about Pedro Diaz is that he has helped bring back Miguel Cotto, a fighter who had been brutally beaten during a full fight twice (by Manny Pacquiao and Antonio Margarito). People talk about how Khan will never come back, but the knockouts he suffered were quick (especially compared to what Cotto endured).

Diaz is very smart and good at preparing fighters for the rigors of the fight. He’s also very good in the corner, which helps in grueling fights where the support a fighter receives between rounds can make the difference between giving up and victory. Diaz used to be the coach of the renowned Cuban national team, so Khan would definitely be as technically competent as possible for each fight. Khan would also calm down on footwork, as he gets in the habit of moving excessively (especially later in fights).

Diaz is a scientist when it comes to conditioning, so with Diaz, Khan may be in such a shape that he can better handle the power of the opposition. Ultimately, the greatest possible contribution from Díaz would be on the corner. If Khan is ever in trouble, he will have all the support between rounds a fighter can hope for.

James “Buddy” McGirt
As a pro, James “Buddy” McGirt was not known for being incredibly fast, strong, or a great puncher. He was known to be a skilled fighter with solid fundamentals. As a coach, he seamlessly brought those skills to other professionals and quickly developed into a hot coach. His work with Arturo Gatti was brilliant, as it led Gatti from a career low to a junior welterweight title that he defended twice before losing to Floyd Jr.

McGirt is as knowledgeable about boxing as almost anyone else, and Khan would enjoy the convenience of having all of that close at hand. Many of his flaws and habits would be erased after a few fights. His jab would be more effective, he would control distance better, he would use more head movement, and his footwork would be more efficient. Add these enhancements to your natural athleticism and you are a recipe for a successful comeback.

Roberto garcia
What strikes me about Robert García is his versatility. He was a very skilled fighter as a professional, and he seems to have imparted it very well to his fighters. His most notable fighters of late are Nonito Donaire, Brandon Rios and Kelly Pavlik, for whom Garcia is now managing another comeback. These are three different types of fighters, but it seems like he’s getting on well with all of them.

The most notable of his fighters is Donaire, who is especially skilled and mobile. Since Khan is most like Donaire in style, Donaire would be his point of reference. I can see Garcia helping cultivate Kahn’s attack to be more efficient, making him sit on his punches, as he throws shorter shots. I can also see Khan using his lateral movement to get better angles for throwing punches, and not just escaping. If Khan can learn to shake his head like Donaire, we could soon forget what happened against Garcia.

Butler emanuel
So far, I’ve talked about the ways that past coaches can help Khan and make him a better fighter. While I have the utmost respect for Emanuel Steward, I don’t think it is to Khan’s advantage to have Steward in his corner.

It’s true that Steward engineered Wladimir Klitschko’s comeback by teaching him how to keep people off his chin. However, that’s easy for Klitschko to do, given that he generally has a huge height advantage over his opponents. While Khan is tall for the weight divisions he has competed in, that might not work out so easily.

Steward is very good with the basics and places a great emphasis on power and aggression. That said, Steward’s biggest successes have been the fighters who have tremendous power (Tommy Hearns, Lennox Lewis, and Klitschko). With fighters having respectable power, he hasn’t added much to his game (as was the case with Jermain Taylor and, more recently, Miguel Cotto and Chad Dawson). While training with Steward may help Khan produce more knockouts, I could also see him ditching the defense. This may make it more fun to watch, but we will likely see it more knocked out as well.

Some of you may not agree with me, so I would love to hear your thoughts. Leave your comments and I’ll get back to you.

A good parent is often a three letter word

In the last year or so, I have noticed that my empathy trait has awakened. Why is this happening, I have no idea. But I’ll tell you this … it’s taking movie watching to a whole new level.

I saw one the other night about a guy whose wife had recently died. As he tried to adjust to not having her around, he soon realized, among other things, that she had been the glue that held his family together.

It wasn’t that he loved his children less than her … he simply saw his role in the family as a provider, so he devoted most of his time and energy to his work. He felt that this allowed his wife to stay home to raise their four children. The perfect family setting, he thought. Well … maybe it wasn’t so perfect after all.

I just wanted what all parents want for their children … the best. So as they got older, he would push them when he should have been guiding. The problem was that he pushed in their direction … not theirs … a mistake that I think many of us dads make. And it seems their expectations were far higher than any of them could meet.

As the story unfolds, he begins to get closer to his now-grown children who are scattered across the country. When he gets in touch with them, they each embellish his situation a bit, leading him to believe that they are much better off than they really were. His daughter … “a leading actress on Broadway” was actually struggling just to get a role. His son … “accomplished conductor” actually played the eardrum … and so on. After all, they didn’t want to disappoint dear dad.

With dad never keeping up with personal contact … like I said, he left that to his wife … along with him living so far away, it was relatively simple for them to pull off their masquerades.

As he visits them one by one and discovers their true stories, he sadly realizes that he doesn’t even know his own children. In fact, one of his sons, who thought he was a successful artist, was high on drugs and so depressed over his mother’s passing that he commits suicide. It’s a pretty heavy story.

The movie ends on a positive note with Dad reuniting his family and doing things right.

As I mentioned earlier about my new empathy trait, well … each scene was drawing emotions out of me that I didn’t realize I was storing. The truth is that I do not look anything like the father portrayed in the film … at least, I hope not. However, I could relate to the fact that no matter how hard we try to better raise our family, it is seen and felt from many different points of view that can manifest in unexpected ways.

As I watch my children’s lives unfold … struggling at times like we all do, I sometimes find myself questioning various decisions I made as a parent … wondering if I could have somehow made things better for them.

I guess he’s just a father’s quarterback on Monday morning. But on the other hand … there would be nothing sadder than waking up just one morning, realizing that while I was so wrapped up in the role of a father, I totally missed being a father.

Tomorrow I’m going to see “Talladega Nights”.

The King – Caesar Salad

Unforgettable, that’s what you are – Caesar salad says it all.

What a great dish for a summer day,

Or winter lunch to light up the gray.


The famous “Caesar Salad” is most commonly made with romaine lettuce, fresh croutons, and garlic vinaigrette, lemon juice, eggs, anchovies, olive oil, Parmesan cheese, salt, and pepper.

Culinary tradition says that Caesar Cordini created the original recipe at his restaurant in Tiajuana, Mexico, in 1924, with many varieties following his original idea. The following recipe, which omits Worcestershire and adds lemon juice alongside anchovies, has become a personal favorite for its fresh, bright, and well-balanced flavors.

Caesar’s dilemma: with or without anchovies? Caesar salad originally didn’t include anchovies, so if you’re not a fan of making the recipe without them, just keep in mind that most anti-anchovy activists are the result of bad experiences based on inferior anchovy brands; the ones that leave off unpleasant fishy / salty flavors that incite generations to cry: “hold the anchovies, please.” With good quality anchovy; most enjoy the vinaigrette unaware of its presence in awe of the flavors. So buy a good anchovy cured in olive oil or packed whole in sea salt; See for yourself how good it is! Stay away from anchovies that resemble tiny wrinkled minnows. Full-bodied anchovies are the best.

What about those raw eggs?

Unfortunately, the use of raw eggs poses serious health risks; therefore, eggs should be spoiled, omitted, or replaced with pasteurized egg products. Gentle cooking / boiling is easy and actually makes a cream dressing. To pamper: Using fresh shell eggs, dip eggs in water just before boiling point; cook for 45 seconds to 2 minutes and put in a cold water bath for 20 seconds to stop the cooking process. Most chefs prefer 45-second eggs, but many home cooks are more comfortable with 1-2 minutes. Remember to only use properly refrigerated eggs; grade A or AA. It is useful to wash the eggs with water or vegetable soap just before use, and to avoid contact between the egg and its outer shell when opening the egg.

Caesar salad recipe:


½ loaf of white bread (day-old bread works great)

4 tablespoons of butter

½ teaspoon salt or to taste

2 garlic cloves, minced

1. Remove crust from bread if desired, then cut into 3/4-inch squares and place on cookie sheet.

2. In a small skillet, melt the butter, add the garlic, sauté for 1 minute, and drizzle over the bread squares, mixing well.

3. Bake at 300 – 325 on cookie sheet for about 15-20 minutes, or until golden brown and crisp. Hot croutons seem less crunchy; developing more crunch as they cool. Also, depending on the choice of bread, baking can take half an hour or more to form a nice crunch.


1 bunch of romaine lettuce

1. Wash well, pat dry and chop the lettuce coarsely.

2. Set aside.


1 fresh garlic clove, peeled

4-6 large anchovy fillets, or to taste,

1 egg yolk or whole egg

1 fresh lemon, juice only

1/2 – 3/4 cup virgin olive oil

1 1/4 cup fresh Parmesan cheese, grated (Parmigiano-Reggiano if available)

Salt and black pepper to taste

1. Reserve 1/4 cup Parmesan cheese to sprinkle on top of salad.

2. Put the remaining ingredients in a food processor and blend until creamy. If the dressing is too thick, you can add a little water, oil or lemon juice, but be careful not to dilute the flavors.

3. In a large salad bowl, toss romaine together with desired amount of vinaigrette, top with croutons, and sprinkle with remaining Parmesan cheese.

Serve with: A fruity red wine; Pinot Noir is a suggestion.

Serves: 4 aces on the first course or 2 aces on the starter.

Variations: Add 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce and 1 teaspoon Dijon mustard. For a Mexican Caesar, add 2 cups of loose cilantro. For entrees, garnish with sliced ​​grilled chicken breast, duck breast, or steamed / smoked seafood.

The Caesar salad, in its simplicity, reigns as king; Its popularity has brought many happy smiles around the world. So feel good while enjoying a Caesar with the rest of us.

Try the biography of the fighter

During the WWF attitude era in the ’90s, it was always going to be difficult for a young superstar to break onto the scene and make a name for himself. But that’s exactly what Andrew “Test” Martin did, and this was due to his great athletic physique, along with his ability to make his presence felt when connecting with fans. Martin came to the attention of WWF management, and it was from there that his career turned phenomenal, with fans around the world mourning his sad and tragic death in 2009.

During the 1990s, Test met Bret “The Hitman” Hart and it was from here that he made the decision to start training to join the WWF. With Bret Hart recently becoming a Montreal Screwjob victim at this point, it seemed like he was eager for his protégé, in the form of Andrew Martin, to perform at the company in which he had been spearheading PPVs for the past decade. . In addition to Hart, Martin also received help developing his fighting skills from Dory Funk Jr., who also trained superstars like Edge, Jeff Hardy, and Kurt Angle, who also broke through at the same time as Test.

Test made his debut as a bodyguard, but soon after he aligned himself with the WWF Champion at the time, being The Rock. This was a story that caught Martin’s attention instantly, and unlike the Hardy Boyz who came through the ranks at a similar time, Test was becoming a household name overnight. This demonstrated that WWF management recognized early on that Test had the charisma and skill necessary to compete in the ring with the best. At Summerslam 1999, Test defeated Shane McMahon to earn the right to marry Stephanie McMahon on screen, and this was the first hint that Test was going to be a fixture of the main event.

When Test was about to marry Steph, Triple H broke off the marriage and stated that he had already married her, backing it up with video evidence. Despite the fact that he had already come out into the open for his involvement with the McMahon family, Test was now involved with one of the top superstars at the time, and even to this day, Triple H. During this time, Test He developed his skills in the ring, as well as his skills with the microphone. This proved critical, as he would later become one of the most consistent superstars on the list during the most successful era in WWF history. Test subsequently moved to the tag team division, where he and Albert would be managed by Trish Stratus as they added a new and more powerful dimension to the division that was dominated by the great fliers prior to their arrival.

After T&A, Test returned to the singles division, and was once again very successful, due to the fact that he was someone who could carry a match on his shoulders and still make it look good to the fans. It was during this period that he won most of his championships, including the Intercontinental, European and Hardcore Championships. Despite the fact that he is no longer in the main image of the event, this was the era in which Test proved to be reliable in the ring and on the microphone.

During the biggest story in professional wrestling history, which is Invasion history during 2001, Test returned to the tag team division, this time with a man who had already established himself in WCW, Booker T. Test and Booker. they won. the WCW tag team titles twice, at one point beating The Rock and Chris Jericho, emphasizing how much that management trusted Test at a high level, mixing it with three seasoned main entrants. Then he got into a dispute with Edge, in one of the main disputes in all of history. Outside of the 5v5 main event, Test’s match with Edge at Survivor Series was one of the most anticipated on the card, and these two superstars justified it. Test would get on-screen immunity that night, as WWF acknowledged that having Test stay on-screen for the next several months, before they started introducing everyone to the programming, would do nothing to hurt their grades.

Test formed the Un-Americans with Lance Storm, Christian and William Regal in 2002, and after a relapse in the tag team championship, the stable was soon broken, and Martin lined up with Stacy Kiebler and returned to the singles division, where it was better. appreciated by fans. Test was now a changed man, with a different haircut and an attractive new ring, and on top of that, Stacy had dubbed her fans the “Testicles,” a play about Hogan’s “Hulkamaniacs.” This was soon concluded, and at this point, Test’s WWE career was a dying flame, as he was now working for Steven Richards on Sunday Night Heat.

Like any other superstar would, Test was released from his WWE contract in 2004, but after a couple of years on the independent circuit, he returned to WWE, but this time under the ECW brand. Test had numerous championship games, but each time he was beaten by Bobby Lashley, who was now getting the push. He was released shortly after, and it wasn’t long before he began wrestling for rival WWE promotion Total Nonstop Action Wrestling. Martin now adopted the name “The Punisher” Andrew Martin, but never got the boost his WWE career had deserved. In 2007 Martin announced his retirement, and just 2 years later, Martin passed away due to an accidental overdose.

All in all, many will look back on Andrew Martin’s career and although he won many championships at the midcard level, it can still be said that he never got the push that would have shown his full potential. Only after his retirement and subsequently his death did people realize the fact that WWE wasted a top start by keeping him at the midcard level for almost a decade.

I’ve been James D and you’ve been reading the career of one of the most underrated superstars of his generation.

RIP Andrew “Test” Martin 1975-2009.

Teach children to play the drums

It is a noisy hobby, but one that can be very enjoyable and rewarding for a child. It’s a great way to foster self-expression, creativity, and an appreciation for all music. It can be a great investment or as simple as a set of drumsticks and a practice drum pad. If you are thinking of giving drum lessons to children, consider these points as you begin your journey.

Section 1. Drumming Can Teach Children to Express themselves

Battery has been used as a means of self-expression for a long, long time. The various rhythms have been used as a means of communication between humans. We see them in marching bands, African tribal celebrations, and Native American ceremonies, to name a few. Drums have been used expressively by many cultures over the years and they can take on a spiritual aspect.

Today, drum circles are a great thing. A group of people sits in a circle and plays the hand drums. The idea is that sharing the rhythms between us becomes a collective rhythm. The result is an increase in the feeling of connection within the group. Drum circles can include children of all ages and are considered very therapeutic.

Playing drums can provide good physical exercise, while also helping to facilitate self-expression and release stress. Practicing the basics is essential. But you also have to spend a lot of time letting the child experiment and play what they want. During this time, they may realize the greatest benefit of self-expression.

Section 2. Drumming can give children something constructive to do with their time

Drums are a musical instrument. Like any other instrument, they require a regimen of practice. Make sure your child has a regularly scheduled practice time. If you don’t play drums, consider taking some lessons for the child. Private lessons are generally available through your local music store.

Most children have an innate love for music, especially popular music. Learning to play the drums to popular songs can give you goals to set and achieve.

The discipline involved in regular practice is quite beneficial. But it is also fostering the child’s interest in music. Allowing the child space to be creative when playing drums is essential. Let them go crazy from time to time.

Section 3. Proper Playing Position

It is important to have the correct size battery for the child so that they can use the correct posture to play. For younger children, buy a beginner battery. Older or taller children can play with a full standard size drum kit.

They should sit up straight. Bending over will cause pain in your back, shoulders, and neck. The stool should be adjusted up or down so that your feet can reach the drum pedals. Keep your knees at a 90 degree angle. Observe and adjust the stool if the child bends over. That will cause fatigue and lower back pain. Be careful to use good posture, or the child may lose interest in the drums early on.

Section 4. Holding the drumsticks

There are a variety of grip styles that can be used on the drumstick when playing the drums. Some constants are that they should be held between thumb and forefinger, about a third of the height of the club. It is important that the clubs are balanced and allow a good swing. Finding the balance is tricky at first, but becomes second nature as the game progresses. We’ll look at the two main grip distinctions here.

Traditional grip

This style of grip is very common in jazz percussion and body percussion. Corporate drummers wear their drum on their hips. It is difficult to use a combo grip, where the club is held in the same way with both hands. Also, the traditional grip is a softer hit. Instead of grasping the sticks, they rest in the pocket of the thumb and forefinger. Find your balance and rest the stick on your last two fingers.

Combined grip

This is the grip style that is popular in rock drums and is now accepted for most types of drums. It simply means that both hands are holding the stick in the same way. The stick is grasped with the thumb and forefinger directly. Find your balance and close your grip with the other fingers. You get a lot more power when playing with an even grip. This is why it is most popular in rock drums. Most drummers use the combo grip now, but older drummers feel that knowing how to use the traditional grip is important.

Section 5. Practicing Basic Rhythms

Depending on the age of the child, it is recommended that you practice in shorter and more frequent sessions. Going to a marathon practice session can make them lose interest. If the noise becomes too much, invest in a drum pad for the child to practice. They get the simulation of hitting a drumhead, but without the noise.

Speaking of noise, make sure your child has some kind of hearing protection when touching the battery to avoid damaging hearing. You can use foam earplugs or headphones that block noise.

When the child is starting, consider using a metronome to master the rhythm. It will serve as a guide and make sure the rhythms are even. Probably the most important thing to practice, especially for the beginner, are the rudiments. These include:

• Single hit roll

• Double stroke roll

• Individual paradiddle

• Double paradiddle

• Flam Tap

• Multiple bounce roll

These are just a few of the rudiments that drummers will become familiar with. Practicing rudiments is equivalent to practicing scales on a piano or with a vocal coach. Every catchy pattern and beat will be made up of these rudiments, and mastery is essential.

The child should spend about half of his practice time on the rudiments and the other half on playing whatever he wants. They need a combination of both activities to advance as a young drummer.

Hopefully, you’ve found this article informative and can use it as a base while cheering on your young drummer!

Do you need a band? How to sing or play on your own

“I don’t have a band to play with.” This is one of the biggest misconceptions in the music industry today. Since the beginning of music there have been soloists. For example, a medieval singer: all they had to do was go downtown or to the market and start singing. Take a trumpeter in present-day New York City: all they have to do is buy a cheap subway ticket and play for the people waiting for the trains. These two examples are related to street music, which despite its connotations has been the respectable beginning of hundreds of musicians.

Johnnie Mac is a great example of making a very profitable living by acting solo and creating the BuskerWorld website. Many restaurants have wanted the special atmosphere of live music but not the cost of a full band, so they will have a solo or a duet. This keeps the cost low for the restaurant and the artist. If a place is willing to pay $ 50 an hour, why have 10 pieces put together? If you’re a solo artist, $ 50 an hour is a great salary and more than most people make in other jobs.

If you feel like you need accompaniment for your solo performance, why not get some prerecorded tracks? Prerecorded tracks are available and can come as a simple drum loop or a full orchestral backing. You can download them to an iPod or MP3 player and have the band literally at your fingertips. These tracks can be found on iTunes and Amazon, which has tracks for public domain songs. Many of these tracks come with the option to license them for other uses.

As a musician, you must have a profitable business. This can be difficult, but by performing alone, you are eliminating the costs of other musicians, the need for more equipment, and other aspects that deplete a band’s profits.

One of the best aspects of playing without a band is a valuable lesson: entertaining yourself. It’s not just about playing or singing, but about entertaining the audience. When you have a band, you can turn to them, talk to them, joke with them, trust them, blame them, etc. Without the band, your skills as a performer, musician, and speaker develop exponentially. About 10 years ago, it was the norm for a renowned musician or singer to come out and sing a shortened, acoustic, or simplified version of some songs.

All the colored lights and additional band members would fade and the spotlight would highlight the artist in a simple circle of light. All the focus would be on that animator, if they hadn’t learned to entertain and capture the audience as a solo artist, it would be a disaster. Since most musicians start out as soloists, this isn’t the disaster it could be. Even though we see this spotlight, solo performance is increasingly fading because today’s musicians are not comfortable with being a solo artist.

Having a band is not an obstacle but a gift: monetarily, creatively and as a growing tool for entertainment. If you feel like you need accompaniment, you can download tracks, but remember that they should not be used as a crutch, but rather as a small pinch of spice for your performance. The best lesson a musician can learn is how to entertain as a soloist.

In my own experience:

As a singer, he had always sung with a choir, band, orchestra, or some other form of accompaniment. I never thought that I could perform as a soloist. My husband and I were asked to perform in a retirement home and of course we agreed. After we accepted, we realized that we really didn’t have musician friends in the area where we were going to play. So we set out to brainstorm: sing Capella, sing along to the singer’s original MP3s and song, or play karaoke tracks. My husband has had a successful career as a music recording engineer and had recorded tracks for himself to record his own music and singing.

These songs were paid for by him to record his voice and sell his own CDs. We removed the vocals and it sounded like a live band. So our first performance in that retirement home, we played to prerecorded tracks or karaoke tracks. This opened our eyes to a broader market: playing as solo artists or duos without hiring a band. Karaoke tracks now aren’t the cheesy-sounding synth tracks of yesteryear. Instead, sometimes it’s the original tracks with just the vocals stripped away. In the case of Taylor Swift’s latest album, a karaoke company has the original music played by her studio band – you can sing the actual Taylor Swift tracks! Since we discovered the music and prerecorded tracks, we have performed in hundreds of venues singing solo or in duo.

White men dating black women: the secrets to approaching black women

Are you a white man who is attracted to black women even though you have trouble getting close to them? Frankly, approaching black women is no different than approaching any other woman. However, there are some issues that underscore the way white men are dealing with interracial dating.

In my opinion, the reasons why white American men find it difficult to approach black American women is partly due to stereotypes about black women. Unfortunately, stereotypes are distributed by the mainstream media. Second, white men are often haunted by the “what if” factor. The “what if” factor is basically the fear of the unknown. Some popular “what ifs” are: “What if she says no?”, “What if she laughs at me?”, “What if she doesn’t like my white skin?”, “What if she has a boyfriend? ? “,” What happens? If she only likes blacks “” What if she gets on me? “… well, you get the idea. Third, pressure from family and / or friends can sometimes be the cause of not getting involved with a black woman.

Now let’s tackle these issues:

Stereotypes / Social Stigmas – Contrary to rap music, rap videos, VH1, BET, and other “newsworthy” sources, black women are not gold-seeking, over-sex-eating, bell-rats. mens. Nor do black women believe that all the white men they come across sit on their front porch in a Klan robe carving wood. Until both parties understand and acknowledge stereotypes for what they are, dating or marriage will remain difficult.

The “What If?” – Gentleman, rejection is a normal part of dating. Sometimes you win, you lose something. Don’t take it personally. For every black woman who says no, there will be 5 who will say yes. It’s that easy. Being rejected by a black woman is no different than being rejected by a woman who is not black. There are no 21 gun salutes, no fireworks or explosions if a black woman rejects you!

Friends and Family: Pressure from friends and family is often the biggest opponent for white men dating black women. Don’t fall into this trap and risk your happiness based on someone else’s views and opinions. You may find yourself stuck in an unhappy situation and always regret that you did not follow your heart.

Okay, now that we’ve got the underlining out of the way, to focus secrets:

In general, we (black women) are socially conditioned to believe that white men are not attracted to us. Many times we lose the subtle clues that white men give because we are used to the aggressive approaches that black men tend to show. However, black women across the country are beginning to pick up on these clues, opening their minds, and responding in kind! With that said, let’s look at a few scenarios:

Scenario 1- Grocery Store:

Well, you see a fiery black woman standing on the pastry or pasta island. When you approach her, make sure you have a food product on hand. Start by asking a question about the product, such as “Excuse me, could you give me any advice on xyz?” Or “Do you know how to cook xyz?” Better yet, ask for an opinion on product xyz. Tell him you read a review and wanted to give it a try. Another idea that works is to explain that your niece asked you to pick up the xyz product … or this is the first time you cooked xyz … ask her about the baking time … and so on. . The point is that you are trying to strike up a conversation without being overly aggressive or threatening. If you’re in the produce section, ask her if she knows how to cook fresh broccoli … or what’s the difference between collard greens and mustard? Tell him that you are single and you are planning a home cooked meal for your mother … what does he suggest you cook for the meal? During small exchanges, be VERY aware of your body language and responses. If your answers are too short, you are in a hurry or not interested. If she’s looking you in the eye a lot, smiling, or trying to prolong her responses, she’s interested.

Scenario 2- The mall / clothing store

Same premise as the previous one. You see an attractive black woman looking at clothes. You approach her in a sweater / shirt / tie. Ask her for an opinion on the style or color. Tell him you were invited to a wedding … you haven’t been wearing a suit for a long time … how do you look xyz? Let’s say you are going to buy something for a little brother, a sister, a nephew. Anything that gives you the impression that you need your advice. Look for wedding rings, ring marks, or any other clues that give you the impression that you are single or interested.

Scenario 3- Eye contact

Nothing irritates us more than a white boy who stares and says nothing (or stares and looks away). This is probably the biggest complaint I constantly hear from black women. Friends, you have to master the art of “eye flirting.” It is imperative if you don’t want to look like a pervert or a loser. If you want her to know that you love her, throw a few lingering glances her way followed with a flirtatious smile. Better yet, if you are amazed by a beautiful black woman, try the “triangle formulation”. This involves looking a woman in the eye, then at the woman’s mouth and chin, at the rest of her body, and back into her eyes. Sexy!

In conclusion, if you are shy or having a hard time meeting eligible black women in your area, try sites that cater to interracial dating. This helps weed out women not dating white men and saves you a lot of time and feelings. It also increases your confidence. Remember that the purpose of online dating is to eventually meet someone. Don’t use this method as a social crutch. Above all, have fun and don’t take things personally!

Is money everything?

Money will buy me a house, but not a house, a bed, but not a good night’s sleep..- Zig Ziglar

Is money everything? This was the title of my speech at a central London seminar organized by Find Your Voice. Many professional speakers from all walks of life attended and delivered messages that motivated and empowered people to take control of their lives. I was one of the four speakers and the theme was: “Money makes the world go round.” I would like to share with you the opinions that I expressed at the seminar.

One of the problems with the success literature is that most of the time the word “success” is often interpreted as material success or power. This generally includes the amount of money a person earns or has; the type of car they drive and the size and location of their home. However, we must remind ourselves that true success is not just the definition of Hollywood.

Success is a journey and not a destination. The mistake most people make is aligning money with success. Money is just a medium of exchange and can never be measured next to success.

I believe that success can be divided into eight categories; These are: spiritual, health, family, career and business, financial, self-development / intellectual, personal needs and community. Therefore, it is worth noting that true success is not only when you are financially rich, but when you are rich in all eight categories.

Money can buy you material possessions, but it cannot buy you happiness and peace of mind. Money is used in exchange for other things, but this paper money that we spend (for example, pounds, naira, dollars, etc.) is not the only money we should have. There is “money” hidden in all of us; the only problem is discovering that we have that “money” inside of us.

Let’s consider this; if one is financially rich and lacks the intellect to make other riches, or is unsuccessful in family life and health, then the person is as good as being poor. Let’s not get too carried away by this mere medium of exchange, money, and stop considering other aspects of life.

I once knew a rich man who, despite his wealth, is in poor health. He died despite the great financial wealth that he had accumulated. Would you say that such a man is rich? Not because? Because he was only wealthy in money, this seemed to be at the expense of his health.

I was at the mansion of one of my mentors, Richie Dayo Johnson, in Netherne-On-the-Hill, Surrey and as we sat in his studio that Sunday night I asked him, “DJ (as I affectionately call him) tell me. that money can and cannot buy. He replied, “Dayo, money can buy you a house, but it can’t buy you a house.” Money can buy you insurance, but not security. Money can buy entertainment, but not happiness. Money can buy you medicine, but it can’t buy you good health. Money can buy you a bed, but it can’t buy you sleep. Money can buy companionship, but not friendship. Money can buy sex, but it can’t buy love. Money is called currency because it is designed to flow through you. Money does not change you; it only reveals who you really are. “

I totally agree with Richie Dayo Johnson. Besides this, I believe that money can buy you many women but it cannot buy you a good wife. You can buy him a good book, but you cannot buy him wisdom and knowledge. He can sponsor you at school, but he can’t buy you intellect. However, the things that money can buy are temporary, but the things that money cannot buy are, most of the time, eternal.

Who are you when you have money and who are you when you don’t? The bottom line is that money doesn’t change you; it simply discovers you. Why not take the time to reflect on the things that money cannot buy? Will it surprise you to realize that money isn’t everything?

Is your spiritual life in order? Are you in good health? Are you in control of your finances? Are you developing intellectually? Are you giving back to society? If you answer YES to all of these questions, then you can safely say that you are thriving and therefore successful.

Now tell me, IS MONEY EVERYTHING? I rest my case.

Reading Lolita in Tehran, a memoir in books – Analysis

For decades, Iran has been the center of controversy. This week’s headlines about Iran could invoke a picture in the mind of a boiler tank with fumes of pent-up religious anger bursting through the seams.

Here are some examples of the headlines:

Clashes erupt as Iran commemorates embassy siege anniversary

Thousands of people demonstrate in Tehran

In Iran, Anti-Government Protests Join Anti-American Rival

Day of the ‘Death to America’: How Iran trained its youth to protest

Iranian Police Will “Energetically Confront” 4 Nov. Demonstrations

Iran warns of crackdown on any opposition protests

The tank could explode at any moment giving way to the pent-up pressure of hatred, threatening any opposition in its raging path.

Recently, my reading of the memoir, Reading Lolita in Tehran, has opened my eyes to the meaning of these headlines. The author, Azar Nafisi, paints a painfully beautiful portrait of her life as an English literature teacher struggling to teach a subject that is contrary to the oppressive theocratic rule of the ruling government. His teachings from the literary works of James and Fitzgerald and Nabokov silently challenge the Islamic Republic and its fundamentalist beliefs with independent-minded characters and individualism; a stark contrast to the image of the ideal Muslim, an ideal that Nafisi and his secret students come to describe as “irrelevant.” Reading your memoirs has piqued my interest in knowing more about what is behind the headlines.

If you look back, you will see that these headlines are just a continuous reincarnation of decades past. Since the sixties, controversy has boiled in two pots; Moujahedin’s modernism and Khomeini’s totalitarian and anti-American ideologies. The intrinsic difference behind the two ideologies is democracy and human rights.

Until 1979, Iran was a monarchy; that is until the monarchy under Shah Mohammad Reza Pahlavi was overthrown and Ayatollah Ruhollah Khomeini received the status of Supreme Leader. Since then, these headlines have dominated many newspapers around the world. The reason is due to the totalitarian principle of velayat-e-faqih, the foundation on which Khomeinism rests. Velayat-e-faqih is the principle of absolute theocratic government. Khomeini believed only in the religious government of the clergy or the Islamic government.

Khomeini won the support of many Shiite Muslims by winning the title of Ayatollah. The title itself, Ayatollah, means “example of God on earth,” and Shiite Muslim fundamentalists believe this literally. This religious fervor and emphatic support made it easy for Khomeini to create an atmosphere that forced his opposition to agree.

Khomeini preached strict adherence to the Islamic government or “government of God.” His word was absolute and disobedience was considered “rebellion against God.” In a talk at the Fayzieah school in Qom on August 30, 1979, Khomeini warned his opponents: “Those who are trying to bring corruption and destruction to our country in the name of democracy will be oppressed. They are worse than the Jews of Bani Ghorizeh, and they must be hanged. We will oppress them at God’s command and God’s call to prayer. ” This threat of oppression was not only directed at the Jews of Bani Ghorizeh, but also at the Iranians. An example is the expulsion of Azar Nafisi from the University of Tehran after years of teaching due to his refusal to wear the veil. Women in Iran were no longer allowed to choose; religion became law. (Wikipedia, 2009)

Reading Azar Nafisi’s memoirs changed my perception of Iran. The way Azar Nafisi was still passionate about literature before his expulsion was my first step in understanding the unrest in Iran. Etched in my mind is the tornado atmosphere that Nafisi managed to dodge for so long. She seemed to weather the storm to this point by standing in the calm eye of the storm, a calm she created by immersing herself and her students in the fantasy world of Lolita, the honest world of The Great Gatsby, and the passionate world. by Daisy Miller. Meanwhile, fundamentalist banners hung all over the walls of the university, protests echoed from outside the classroom windows and the worst image, a student who set himself on fire running through the corridors. Our most humble respect must go to Azar Nafisi for persisting in teaching Western literature in such a turbulent climate where leaders considered such teachings “from the devil.” Nafisi held out longer than any other free person worth his salt could hope for.

Still more etched in my mind is why immersing myself in Western literature would surround it in calm amid the turbulence of a revolutionary Iran, and strike such a universal chord among its readers and students. To illustrate this point, we must go to the Nafisi class where The Great Gatsby becomes controversial enough to be put through a mock trial. Representing the book itself, Nafisi defends Gatsby against the Islamic Republic of Iran and its problem with the morality of the novels. Nafisi’s answer:

“You don’t read Gatsby … to find out if adultery is good or bad, but to find out how complicated issues like adultery, fidelity, and marriage are. A great novel heightens your senses and your sensitivity to the complexities of life. life and people, and prevents you from self-righteousness that sees morality in fixed formulas about good and evil “. (Nafisi, 2004)

The message I take home from that is the attribute of empathy. All the books that Nafisi studies with his students have something in common. All characters have flaws. There is no clear hero or clear villain. His portraits are in watercolor, blurring the hero and the villain. You have empathy for both. Nafisi’s student Zarrin, after very skillfully defending Gatsby in the mock trial, told Nafisi: “This is an amazing book. It teaches you to value your dreams but also to distrust them, to seek integrity in places. unusual “. Zarrin doesn’t make any sense to act immoral after reading the book. Instead, see through the eyes of the characters and learn from their flaws. And reading these books in the context of a revolutionary Iran seems to wake up the Nafisi students to the fact that morality cannot be imposed on the people. These books have no mystical power to induce someone to act badly as the revolutionaries claim. I am convinced that the reason these books strike a chord with the reader is the freedom of choice of characters. Religious ideals and laws are not things that can be imposed on an individual because the truth is that they will never be accepted, just like with Humbert or the blind censor. Indeed, it is ironic that Khomeini’s supporters consider these books powerful enough to impose on the reader the ideals of their characters. Ironic because that is exactly what the revolutionaries are doing, imposing “morality” on their subjects with their Revolutionary Guards. He is in a true narcissistic way, accusing your enemy of what you are guilty of. But the individual cannot be fooled.

“Neither Humbert nor the blind censor ever possess their victims, they always elude him, just as fantasy objects are always close at hand and inaccessible. No matter how they are broken, the victims will not be forced to submit.” . (Nafisi, 2004)

Nafisi’s memoirs are a call to all men and women that Iranians want democracy. They want the freedom to choose without the fear of death and oppression of Khomeini’s supporters. He wants us to know that despite Khomeini’s death in 1989, his ideologies and oppression continue. In fact, his death only shows how much control he had over his followers. “Iranians went out into the cities and streets to mourn Khomeini’s death in a” completely spontaneous and unorchestrated torrent of grief. ” Since then, the Islamic Republic of Iran has tried to stay true to its ideology (Wikipedia, 2009).

There is a majority that does not agree with the absolute theocratic government. Today their protests against the government are taking place in the streets of Iran. The most active anti-government opposition group Moujahedin, seeks democracy, human rights, freedom and grace and compassion versus violence and revenge; a stark contrast to the oppressive and absolute theocratic rule that is in effect now. We can read the result of their efforts in the statement of the National Council of Resistance of Iran. A summary of the statement can be found in Chapter 15, Modern and Democratic Islam: Antithesis of Fundamentalism from the book Islamic Fundamentalism – The New Global Threat:

“The program of the National Council of Resistance of Iran recognizes the” individual and social rights of all citizens, as outlined in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. “It guarantees general freedoms, including freedom of association, thought and expression, media, parties, unions, councils, beliefs and religions, and professions. The NCR program also calls for “the abolition of military and extraordinary courts, the investigation of political crimes in civilian courts with juries present” and guarantees the “right of the accused to the defense and the choice of defense attorney, and the right to appeal “Emphasizes” the prohibition of torture under any pretext “, and emphasizes” judicial and professional security for all citizens and the abolition of Komitehs and the Body of Guards “(Mohaddessin, 1993)

This National Council of Resistance of Iran has given hope to many Iranians, especially women, who suffer from the oppression of the absolute rule of the Republic of Iran. But will we ever see the end of this battle? Will Iran emerge from the clutches of Khomeini’s terrorist religious tyranny? The Mojahedin think so; in fact, they believe it is a necessity. Maybe it’s in your life, or maybe not. For now, one can only look to the future to see what Iran will become (if democratic liberating Islam triumphs) by reading the words of Mojahedin Massoud Rajavi:

“We will live in peace and coexistence with our neighbors. Democratic Iran will recognize no place for revenge, blind hatred, Khomeini courts or the kind of anarchy. We are responsible enough not to get involved in domestic and international adventures. Theocracy like Khomeini’s. Instead of “exporting the revolution”, we will invite our country’s experts to return to Iran. In democratic Iran no one will be persecuted for their ideology or religion. Tomorrow’s Iran will be free from repression and religious hypocrisy Women, workers, peasants, religious and ethnic minorities will not be oppressed. Kurds, Turks, Jews, Muslims, Armenians, Christians, Zoroastrians and non-Muslims will enjoy the same rights. Iran will become a symbol of peace, stability and friendship in the Middle East. “(Rajavi, 1982)