This is the final installment of a 3-part series that examines how we are in control of our own destiny and how we can positively force ourselves to find our niche in life, achieve our dreams, and achieve our goals along the way. In this final article, I’ll share with you a real-life example of how to use positive energy, effort, and willpower to turn a worrying situation into a positive experience. I call this:
First acting experience of “Mimi Bloopers”
I decided to follow my dream of becoming a composer and performer as I approached middle age. It was not a hasty decision based on a midlife crisis, but lay dormant in my subconscious for a long time. I loved acting and was just waiting for the right moment to refocus this passion.
My sister Rosemarie, who was a stroke victim at the age of 42 and also a member of OPUS (Organization of “People Undaunted By Stroke”) in Westchester County, fueled my desire to have a songwriting and performance experience sooner. of a live audience. New York. She was my biggest fan, and she used all her influence to prepare me for my first public performance. I didn’t know how he did it, but the auditorium was packed with an incredible audience. I must admit that that day I was extremely nervous, afflicted by a severe case of stage fright. He was so stressed that he had developed a mild case of laryngitis. In my performance I used a variety of costumes, hats, wigs, and accessories to convey the theme. and the mood of my personal compositions along with some Broadway tunes that I had planned to sing. I don’t smoke, but I decided to act really cute that day and smoke a cigarette while singing, trying to inhale the smoke and push it up my nose. That was the dumbest thing he could have ever done. You should have tried practicing at home rather than in front of a live audience. I burned my nostrils, which made me cough terribly, bringing tears to my eyes. The more I choked on the cigarette, the more the wig moved towards my eyes. He was terrified that it would catch fire. What a sight, there I was on stage looking absolutely ridiculous in my crooked wig, rotten sneakers three sizes up, and a huge feather boa wrapped around my neck trying to sing “Elegance” from “Hello, Dolly.”
In my extreme nervousness, my voice began to break when I reached the highest pitch, and as I moved my arms I lost my balance and fell backwards. All my weight slammed into the table support, causing a tall glass vase to crash to the floor. Luckily, I didn’t cut myself when I fell. There were crystals all over the floor and a chair next to the round table stand. Immediately, as if it were a signal, a janitor appeared out of nowhere on stage and began to whistle while sweeping the broken glass. My singing teachers always advised me that if I was ever caught in a situation that distracts me while performing, I should stay focused and continue singing. The crowd roared with laughter as they watched the janitor’s ostensible comedy act in the background as I sang. How horrible, they called my nonsense COMEDY. At that very moment, I knew that my so-called career had ended as soon as it had started.
The career he hoped to start was as a professional singer, not as a comedian. I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me up. Nothing was going well. I was so upset. I packed everything up and got out of the building as fast as I could.
In the car I didn’t say much to my sister even though she was trying to sound cheerful. He was far from euphoric. On the contrary, I started crying, muttering that I shouldn’t have gotten into this business. Maybe I should have listened to Mom and continued singing with the church choir as a backup singer. I began to regret all the expenses I had incurred to get to this point. The purchase of a new piano, private piano lessons and trained voice, time invested in my musical compositions, 2 years of vocal training at the Leneve School of Music and Art, a professional recording of two of my songs, all to no avail. He was in such a bad mood, completely bummed out. Let’s face it, no one is immune from discouragement. It comes to all of us at one point or another, because “Life is a developing process, in which we go from relative ease to crisis points.” My dream was starting to fade when I allowed my positive attitude to be dominated by negative emotions. I had a lot of anticipation for that first performance, but since I didn’t see the results I was hoping for, it fueled my discouragement.
My sister was getting mad at me and she said, “What’s wrong with you? Could you? Please stop all this drama. Enough of this” woe is me! “Mentality. “For being such a positive-minded person, it amazes me. This was your first show and you’re already finishing up? That’s right! Sometimes it’s okay, sometimes it’s awful. You have to learn to go with the flow. You need to crawl first. of walking and walking before running.. So stop being so hard on yourself. To be honest, I thought you were gorgeous and fun. I almost got my pants wet when you choked on the cigarette and the part where you fell and broke the glass. The audience roared. You want people to remember you, right? Look on the bright side. Here’s a great idea … why don’t you try adding some comedic situations to each of your shows? kind of like a variety of vaudeville-style comedy acting. “I remember saying” Isn’t that a bit old-fashioned? ” “Who cares? People need to laugh, and you can always knock them out with songs. Do it, girl.” Thank God for my wise older sister and the humble lesson I learned from all of this.
Since that first experience, despite all the obstacles, setbacks, and failures that I had encountered during my years as a songwriter-performer, I was still able to write and perform more than 25 original songs. I was starting to feel a lot more confident about my progress and future in the entertainment field. There were some years that were more successful than others, until, sadly, an accident ended this chapter of my life.
Once again I found myself on the brink of making a conscious decision to follow another dream with an intense desire to continue with it. Although my performance as a website manager and blogger may seem less attractive, I do not regret the changes in my career. I have now added another heart’s desire to my list of accomplishments as I am working to become a successful writer. This is my goal, this is the hole I want to fill, and when I get there is where I will stay.
As you can see for yourself, having a positive or negative thought process makes a significant difference in finding your niche in life.
Positive-minded people take advantage of all the opportunities available to them, freeing themselves from all self-imposed restrictions. These people not only have a clear picture in their minds of what they want, but also where they are going. They know that if they hold onto that dream long enough, with enough clarity and confidence, it will attract everything it needs to materialize. The person who has a positive attitude towards their role in life will wake up feeling good about themselves and expect incredible things to happen. Occasionally, you will have unfortunate experiences along the way, but the secret to success is not allowing those experiences to rule your daily thoughts. They just keep waiting for more good to happen, and it does happen because “the similar attracts the similar.”
I hope that as you read this article you will get excited and find a new determination to do something successful in your life. If so, then everything I’ve said has been worth it. You are now on the way to progress. Dream, then do it: find your niche in life. It’s already there, waiting for you to claim it.
“Hold on to that dream Never let go … Because it is your strength and courage When you travel the path of life.
Patience is a virtue, but hope is much better. So hold on to that dream Hold on to that dream No matter how old you are. “
Miriam B. Medina