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Fasting your way to gut health

This article addresses something that is crucial to good health, but that many people still seem unaware of. That is daily fasting. Fasting is simply not eating for a period of time.

It’s not complex, but if you’re serious about it (and by that I mean fasting for an extended period of time), are diabetic, pregnant, or have autoimmune issues, it’s a good idea to get counseling and understand how to do it. to do it safely.

In fact, we fast every day without realizing it, because we fast overnight while we sleep.

Fasting is said to help boost your immune system, lower blood sugar, and control weight, among others. You are actually being kind to your gut when you fast because you are allowing the waste that is currently in your system to get out before you start eating again.

Essentially, you’re giving your entire digestive system a break, so the body can get back to what it does naturally, which is heal and repair.

However, what we often do is graze. So we can have a good breakfast first thing in the morning when we wake up because that’s what we think we should do. We can have a snack around 11.00. Then we will have lunch probably around 12:00-13:00. We can have a snack around 4:00 pm, then we have dinner probably around 6:00 pm or 7:00 pm We can even have a small snack before bed.

What that means is that we are constantly eating, which means that our digestive system rarely rests. The consequence of this is that our body is constantly using energy to digest our food instead of burning fat, which is what it is designed to do when we don’t eat.

Also, when we are snacking we do not always know if we are really hungry, and over time eating between meals becomes a habit. Sometimes we eat when we are not even hungry, we are actually dehydrated and thirsty.

By adopting the following seven simple strategies, we’ll essentially not only be giving our bodies a chance to rest our digestive tract, but we’ll also be strengthening our immune systems:

1. Eat breakfast later than early

2. If you must eat breakfast early, make it fruit-based whenever possible, as your body is still in cleansing mode first thing in the morning.

3. Eat when you are hungry

4. Drink water between meals instead of snacking

5. Do not eat after 20:00

6. Eat your last meal no more than 4 hours before bedtime

7. Fast intermittently every day for 12 to 16 hours between your last meal and your breakfast.

Thinking about how you eat, what you eat, and when you eat is the start of taking control of your own gut health. Consider what you eat first thing in the morning when our body is still cleaning itself; In the same way that you wouldn’t feed a newborn baby solids, their stomach first thing in the morning needs to be nourished a bit.

Finally, you can train your body to intermittently fast every day for a period of time until it gets used to it. Start without eating overnight for 12 hours and gradually extend it. Intermittent fasting is not only great for your gut, but it’s one of the easiest and most effective ways to help your body start functioning at its best and improve your overall health.

Book Review: The Apology in a Minute by Ken Blanchard and Margret McBride

I love this book. It is a must read for anyone who wants to live a better life and have peace of mind and personal integrity in all areas of their lives. I had an epiphany reading this book. It helped me in both my personal and business life. I go back to it on a regular basis.

I know the apology is in the title, but it’s not just about saying you’re sorry. When my oldest son was growing up, he had a habit of coming home later than expected. He would apologize profusely, but he kept coming later than he expected! Finally, I told him, I’m not looking for “sorry.” I need you to change your behavior and take responsibility for your actions. It took him a while to get it.

The bottom line is that it’s about doing the right thing and living with integrity. It’s about going the extra mile to make things right with someone else. The author references a story by Carl Sandberg about Abraham Lincoln. Lincoln showed true humility and went to great lengths to make things right with one of his officers during the civil war. He knew that he hadn’t done the right thing with this man. No one would have blamed him if Lincoln hadn’t done anything. It was during the war after all. He didn’t even have to go himself; He could have sent someone else, but he didn’t. He himself went and made it a personal mission to make amends.

“A one-minute apology is incomplete without a sincere attempt to make things right” (p. 47 The One-Minute Apology)

And many of the good things are in the details. One of the characters is “Nana”. On pages 80-82, there is a storm and they are going to pick Nana up so she doesn’t have to drive in the rain. “When the car stopped in Nana’s driveway, the rain was pouring down hard. The young man jumped out of the car and ran towards Nana… he opened his umbrella and carefully walked Nana to the car.” I know a lot of this can sound corny to people and not everyone wants to live their life like this. But I believe in the inherent goodness in most people, and I know that they want to do the right thing. This simple little booklet gives more details on how they might do it.

I have an abusive boyfriend? 3 ways to know

“Girls like bad boys.” This is a very popular phrase, and in some cases it is true. Bad boys aren’t boring, they’re not nerdy, they’re not shy, and they have an I-don’t-care attitude. They are sometimes mysterious, with an aura of charm and relaxed body language that is attractive to the opposite sex. Oddly enough, abusers are almost never bad boys: they want you to like them, so they share their feelings with you because they want you to engage with their emotions. If you are involved with their feelings, then you will try to figure them out, try to learn what makes them tick.

If your boyfriend slaps you, punches you, chokes you, shakes you, hits you, pushes you, or causes you physical pain in any way, the answer to the question is easy: yes, he is an abuser. There is no need to read further.

Unfortunately, abusive men don’t show their hands early on. Not your ‘physical’ hands. But there are ways to discern if the abusive tendency lurks beneath your exterior. Here are three indications that your boyfriend may be a bully hiding in lover’s clothing:

1. He is self-centered, narcissistic and selfish. All of these terms are identical, but I will endeavor to elaborate on their meanings. Egocentrism is self-explanatory: the self is the center of attention. Narcissistic means having an excessive or erotic interest in oneself. (Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration.) Selfish means excessively conceited or self-absorbed. Now, think about your boyfriend and the last few conversations you had with him. Were they mainly about him? Did you get the feeling that he didn’t listen to you or your opinions because he continually reminded you of the subject and how he thought? In her book “Why Does She Do That?” Lindy Bancroft states, “Egocentrism is a personality trait that is highly resistant to change, having deep roots in deep entitlement (in abusers) or emotional injury. early severe (in abusers, non-abusers), or both (in narcissistic abusers).

2. You seem to get serious about the relationship right away. Most of the time you find that men avoid commitments. They don’t want to settle down, or haven’t found the right one yet. When the subject of marriage or stability comes up, they want to change the subject, avoid the subject altogether. If your boyfriend is already talking about the future, wanting to spend the rest of his life with you, it could be because he wants to “own you.” How many battered women have said that their abusers told them “If I can’t have you, no one will.” If he tries to slow down and he resists, this may be a sign of danger ahead.

3. His anger scares you. Anger is a normal emotion. We all get angry sometimes. But when someone’s anger is intimidating, something is wrong. Examples of intimidating anger are moving closer to the object of your anger, pointing your finger in the face, pushing, blocking movement, or restraining yourself. The excuse often given by someone exhibiting the above behavior is “I just want you to listen to me!” If your boyfriend kicks in doors or makes holes in the wall; if he throws things, sometimes hitting you, sometimes not; he speeds or attempts to vandalize a vehicle when he is angry; he makes you cringe or flinch when he’s angry; or makes veiled threats like “You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry; these are signs of danger.

Abusive men don’t want to let the cat out of the bag too soon. They want to spend time with you, involve you, make you believe that nobody loves you like they do; In short, they want to own you. Are you a possession? If not, pay attention to the signs it gives you. All the ways an abuser behaves lead to the one thing he wants more than anything: control. He takes control of your own life and resists abuse. Once abuse occurs, it’s just the beginning. Once abusers are in control, they often refuse to give it up. In other words, if he ever hits you, he’ll hit you again.

Body Detox: It Will Get Worse Before It Gets Better

Biological detoxification of your body can be accomplished in many different ways. Healthy people with no problems find it much easier to do than people with chronic health problems. Results may vary. You may experience fantastic results or it may be marginal. It depends on what you decide to do and how it affects you. This is one of those mind body spirit things. Most people are healthier after a few months. Everyone is different. It’s like getting a face lift. You can be fabulous when it’s over or not so much.

The first thing you should know before embarking on this path is that it is a journey. Please don’t do this alone. Skip the health food store, look at some brochures, buy the detox supplements mentioned, and head home to detox on your own. You will be in for a very unpleasant surprise. Includes stomach ache, headache, and diarrhea. First, find out what a detox will actually do for you.

The professionals at the forefront are chiropractors, alternative medicine doctors, nurses, massage therapists, and professional trainers. Interview them carefully before deciding on a professional. What they need to do is provide complete instructions, guidance and advice for the entire procedure. Expect them to be available to you for months if needed. The prices they charge for this service vary widely, so shop around. Get testimonials.

Get a blood chemistry test done before starting a plan to see which toxins are affecting which organ systems. Find out what toxins are present and also learn about heavy metals. Our air, food and medicines are mixed with heavy metals. Having blood tests for toxins can cost thousands of dollars. I wanted to find someone locally but the prices were through the roof. The costs are higher than professional charges because you have to buy a variety of supplements.

My chiropractor’s explanation of the detoxification process helped me understand that doing a supervised program is essential. His testing costs were reasonable and he was online. You used supplements from a certified company and everything was pharmaceutical grade, that can make a world of difference.

I started the program knowing that it could negatively affect me. I felt sore and tired the first week. I knew how to exercise to feel better faster. I went for a walk every morning. We are all different, but since I was informed, I knew what to expect. He knew how to adjust it to relieve the symptoms and be able to function. Each week of detoxification will bring you different symptoms to deal with. Wait and keep your professional informed. You should notice new strength and a deeper sleep.

So how do you know your detox worked? You have to try again. You must be willing to change your protocol as you go along. No professional will be able to help you do that without a follow-up test. Detoxification can take months depending on the person.

Drink plenty of water. It has to be at least two rooms. Make sure it’s filtered water. What will you eat? Most professionals will have easy diets to follow. Invest in a skin brush from a health food store. Brush your skin as this is one of the main areas where toxins are released. Instructions come with the brush. Taking an Epsom salt bath is also helpful. Some people reported some swelling in different parts of the body as the toxins are released. Resting on a slant board was also suggested to relieve swelling.

Would I go through this process again? Yes. It’s an education on your physiology. It will give you the best way to relieve symptoms that you may have had for a long time. A big side effect is that obese people will lose weight. As they progress through detoxification, diet management is an important facet. You will know what works.

Movie Review – Meet Joe Black

With an all-star cast that includes Brad Pitt, Anthony Hopkins and Claire Forlani, Meet Joe Black is a film about death and the value of life. The film lasts approximately three hours and fifteen minutes, it is quite slow at times, but it has an excellent plot. Filming takes place in the hub of big business in New York City, where Anthony Hopkins plays a character named Bill Parrish, who is a CEO of a billion-dollar news company.

The story begins in Bill Parrish’s luxurious New York City apartment, where he wakes up at night with pain in his chest and arm. He goes to the bathroom where he splashes water on his face and wonders what’s going on, as he hears a voice simply say, “Yes.” Bill does not recognize that he may have heart problems and goes on with his daily life as chairman of the board of directors of his news corporation.

Next, we see Bill’s two daughters enter the scene. Susan, Bill’s favorite daughter, stops by for breakfast before heading off to the hospital where she is an internal medicine resident. Bill’s other daughter, Allison, doesn’t seem to have a job, but she keeps busy planning Bill’s 60th birthday party at Bill’s property. She’s planning an extraordinary party that includes flaming archers, big band ensembles, well-known vocalists, and politicians of all stripes. Bill makes it clear that he doesn’t care about the party at all and several times in the movie makes Allison angry at her lack of interest.

On her way to work, Susan stops at a diner near the hospital where she runs into an unnamed young man played by Brad Pitt. The young man strikes up a conversation with Susan since he is new in town, and they end up having coffee together and telling each other how they like each other. They walk away with regret and do not get each other’s contact information. As the young man crosses a busy intersection on his way to work, he turns away thinking of Susan and is killed when he is hit by two cars. This part of the movie is very well done and will surely surprise the viewer.

Meanwhile, Bill plans to sell his company to a media mogul. He is uncomfortable with the idea of ​​selling his life’s work to a man whose intentions are unclear, and he is even more uncomfortable when he realizes that he is dying. While he is in his office the next day, the voice he hears causes him to fall to his knees and clutch his chest as he sweats, at the mercy of his voice. The voice tells him that the “yes” he has been hearing is the answer to Bill’s question: “Am I dying?”

That same night, Bill Parrish, his two daughters, Allison’s husband Quince, and Susan’s boyfriend Drew gather for dinner at Bill’s house. Drew is Bill’s right-hand man and it is believed that when Bill is gone one day, Drew will take over Parrish Communications. Dinner is just beginning when Bill hears the voice again, saying that he is at the front door and wants to be let in. Bill’s maid lets the man behind the voice into Bill’s house and meets Bill in Bill’s library. This part of the film is filled with tension and discomfort, and the viewer realizes that as powerful as Bill Parrish is in the real world, there is still a higher power that rules his life.

Parrish speaks to the voice, who is standing behind a bookcase in his large library, and the voice tells him to shut up and listen to what it has to say. Eventually, the voice is revealed to be Susan’s crush from the diner, but with a completely different personality. It’s not entirely obvious at this point, but “Death” has taken over the body of the young man from the diner to enter Bill Parrish’s life. In fact, Parrish has heart problems and will die in the near future, and “Death” has taken the young man’s body so that he can learn about life from a man who lives life to the fullest. “Death” wants to take a vacation from helping people die and wants to see what life is like for one of the best humans alive.

Bill Parrish asks what they should do about “Death” in their life, and the young man says that he will stay at Bill’s house, have dinner with his family, and go to work with him every day. Basically, he wants to do everything Bill does so he can see how an exceptional human being lives. At dinner it becomes obvious that the young man does not understand how humans live, as he is overwhelmed by the maids bringing him food and the comments Parrish’s family makes to him. Bill must introduce the anonymous young man to his family and comes up with the name Joe Black, an appropriate name for “Death”.

When Susan arrives at dinner and realizes that the young man from the diner has returned to her life, she is impressed, as is her boyfriend, Drew. Joe Black realizes that she knew the young man from the diner who is now dead and that he is not the same person she expected. She gets frustrated and doesn’t understand why he’s acting differently, but Joe manages to hide his true identity. Drew makes the comment that he doesn’t like how Susan and Joe look at each other and breaks off his relationship with Susan. Joe tells Susan that he doesn’t like how Drew spoke to him rudely, and the two end up kissing in Bill’s front room.

At this point, Bill realizes that Susan is falling for Joe Black and warns his daughter that Joe is not who she thinks he is. Susan listens but doesn’t seem to care, as she makes love to Joe several days later near Bill’s indoor pool. Bill not only has major concerns about his daughter falling in love with Death, but now he has backed down from his willingness to sell his company. He tells his board of directors, with Joe at his side, that his company is not for sale. Parrish does not give specific reasons for her decision and does not leave it open for discussion. Drew, very suspicious of Joe at this point, and Joe and Drew start a nasty relationship with each other. Drew is unaware that Joe is an omniscient being and that his wit will never match Joe’s personality and knowledge of everything in the world.

Drew is so suspicious of Bill Parrish and his dependence on Joe that he holds a secret meeting with the board of directors. Allison’s husband, Quince, who is also on the board, reveals that Bill has left some of the decision-making in Joe’s hands, as he has a lot on his mind. Knowing that Bill is letting a stranger make decisions for him, the board votes to give Bill a staggering amount of money to resign after his sixtieth birthday. Bill has no choice in the matter and leaves the boardroom distraught and utterly saddened.

The story now focuses on Bill’s lavish birthday party. All of his closest friends are there in their suits and tuxedos and spirits are running high. However, Bill has had an argument with Joe and now knows that his life will end after the party. The discussion was about Joe falling for Susan. Bill says that Joe is a lousy attempt at being a person and he doesn’t want Joe to take Susan with them to the dark side. Bill says that if Joe has a heart and is really a decent person, Joe will go and reveal who he really is to Susan and see what she thinks. Joe walks out of Bill’s office where we assume Bill is finishing his will and goes directly to Susan. She is frightened by what Joe reveals to her, and Joe begins to see that she has been selfish and that Susan must stay alive.

The last hours of Bill’s life are sad but well spent. He is forced to take the stage at his own party to give a speech and tells the crowd of him that he has a special memory with everyone present. The speech is short and very melancholy as Bill is too preoccupied to give a moving speech. After the speech, he kisses Allison and Susan and returns to his home office. He asks his son-in-law, Quince, to invite Drew over for a last-minute chat. Drew is flattered by the invitation, but when he arrives at the office, he sees Bill and Joe and knows that he’s in a bad situation. Bill curses him and tells Drew that he knows how Drew was planning a secret partnership with the man who was buying Bill’s company. Drew was going to break up Bill’s company piece by piece and ruin his life’s work to enrich himself and the board of directors. Bill gives Drew the choice to resign and never show his face again, or hire lawyers and force Drew to go to prison. Drew wisely decides to quit and begins to wonder how Bill and Joe knew so much about his immoral plans.

The last part of the film takes the viewer through each emotion. First, Joe tells Drew that he’s from the IRS and that he had a bad feeling that Drew was doing a bad deal. Through investigation, Joe says that he discovered Drew’s plans, which is why Drew decided to resign and avoid prison. He realized that the battle of wits and intelligence between him and Joe was over, and Drew had been beaten by an IRS agent. With Bill’s company safe and back in the hands of the board of directors, he feels comfortable enough to return to the party and say his last goodbyes.

Joe says goodbye to Susan and tells her that he will always love her. Susan and Joe get very emotional when Joe walks away from her. Bill kisses Allison and later finds Susan and asks her to dance. They spend a beautiful moment together in Bill’s last moments, and Bill tells him that whatever happens, he doesn’t worry. Susan seems to understand that her father may be dying and she begins to cry even more. She leaves to watch the fireworks display and Bill leaves to catch his breath.

Bill Parrish walks up a bridge and up a grassy hill to meet Joe and start the dying process. Bill has said goodbye to the two most important people in his life, Allison and Susan, and can now die in peace. Bill tells Joe that he admires how Susan showed the kind of love for Joe that Bill had always dreamed of. He saw that Susan was really in love and happy and that made Bill happy. Joe tells Bill that he admires him as a person and that he is grateful for his time on Earth. They walk casually over the hill into the darkness where Bill dies, but Joe doesn’t. Susan sees the two most important men in her life walking up the hill and begins to climb it herself. She sees Joe come back up the hill and start walking towards her. Susan isn’t sure what’s going on, but as Joe approaches her, she sees that the young man from the diner is back. Joe ended up taking Bill’s life, but he also brought life back to the body of the young man he took at the beginning of the movie. To show that he is reasonable and actually has a good heart, Joe feels that making Susan happy for the rest of her life would be a fair exchange for taking Bill’s life. The film ends with Susan and the man from the cafeteria walking hand in hand towards the fireworks which explode dramatically over the Parrish property.

The plot of this movie is incredibly deep and interesting. The idea that “Death” comes to Earth to experience life in the body of a young man is truly unique. Martin Brest does a fantastic job of directing this big budget movie with his all-star cast. The movie will have you laughing at Joe’s innocent antics, crying at the end when everyone must say goodbye as Bill heads to his death, and even getting mad at Drew for trying to destroy Bill’s multi-billion dollar corporation. This move is a must see and due to the complexity of the story and emotional plot it is rated 5 out of 5.

Covert tactics manipulators use to control and confuse you

We may have an uneasy feeling in our gut that doesn’t match the manipulator’s words, or feel trapped into agreeing to a request. Most people react in ways that escalate the abuse or play along with the abuser and feel small and guilty, but withdraw and allow unacceptable behavior. If you had a manipulative parent, it might be harder to recognize it in a partner, because it’s familial.

The ancient wisdom to “know your enemy” is essential when dealing with a manipulator. Being able to spot these hidden arrows allows you to strategically respond to covert manipulation. Understanding what they are doing empowers you.

When people behave passive-aggressively, what appears passive or defensive is covert aggression. It is debatable to what extent his behavior is conscious or unconscious.

The victim doesn’t care. The effect is the same. Being too empathetic puts you in danger of being mistreated over and over again. When someone attacks you overtly or covertly, they are being aggressive. Psychologist George Simon argues that these covert manipulators intentionally say and do things to get what they want: power and control.

For people with logical disorders, such as sociopaths and narcissists and some people with borderline personality disorder, he argues that their tactics are not unconscious in the way defense mechanisms normally work. However, his behavior is so habitual that over time he becomes reflexive. They don’t think about it, but they are still aware of it.

Goals of a manipulator

The goal of all manipulation is to gain influence to meet our needs, but the usual manipulators do it for power and control and use deceitful and abusive methods. Manipulators maintain dominance through continuous and recurring emotional manipulation, abuse, and coercive control. They are often passive-aggressive. They may lie or act like someone who cares about you, or feel hurt or surprised by your complaints, all to deflect any criticism and continue to behave in unacceptable ways. By maintaining control to do what they want, manipulators aim to:

1. To avoid being confronted.

2. To put you on the defensive

3. To make you doubt yourself and your perceptions

4. To hide your aggressive intent

5.To avoid liability

6. So you don’t have to change

Over time, you become a victim and may lose confidence in yourself and your feelings and perceptions. Gaslighting is a treacherous and incapacitating form of manipulation.

Covert Manipulation Tactics

Manipulation can include overt aggression, such as criticism, narcissistic abuse, and subtle forms of emotional abuse. Manipulators’ favorite covert weapons are: blame, complaining, comparing, lying, denying, feigning ignorance or innocence (e.g. “Who am I!?”), blaming, bribing, undermining, mind games, assumptions, ” foot in the door.” , investments, emotional blackmail, evasiveness, forgetfulness, inattention, false concern, sympathy, apologies, flattery, and gifts and favors. See How to detect handling.

Typical tactics are described below:

Lying

The usual lies sometimes lies when it is not necessary. They are not lying because they are afraid and guilty, but to confuse you and do what they want. Some simultaneously put you on the defensive with charges and other manipulative tactics. The lie can also be indirect through the vagueness and/or the omission of material information, even if everything else that is said is true. For example, a cheater might say that he was working late or at the gym, but not admit to an adulterous date.

Denial

This is not unconscious denial, such as not realizing that you are being abused, have an addiction, or are avoiding facing difficult truths. This is a conscious denial to deny knowledge of promises, agreements, and behavior. Denial also includes minimizing and rationalizing or making excuses. The manipulator acts like you’re making a big deal out of nothing or rationalizes and excuses his actions to make you doubt yourself or even win your sympathy.

Avoidance

Manipulators want to avoid being confronted and take responsibility at all costs. They may avoid conversations about their behavior simply by refusing to discuss it. This could be combined with an attack, such as “You’re always nagging me,” getting defensive with guilt, guilt, or shame.

Avoidance can be subtle and imperceptible when a manipulator changes the subject. It can be camouflaged with boasts, compliments, or comments you want to hear, like “You know how much I care about you.” You may forget why you were upset in the first place.

Another avoidance tactic is the avoidance that blurs the facts, confuses you, and sows doubt. I once dated a man who said we were incompatible because I was too precise and he was the kind of person who “passes over”. Precisely! He felt uncomfortable when I asked questions or noted inconsistencies in his half-truths. It became clear that he was a clever manipulative liar. It’s easy to give someone the benefit of the doubt and say no when you’re hopeful in a relationship. When in doubt, trust them!

Guilt, guilt and shame

These tactics include projection, a defense in which the manipulator accuses others of their own behavior. Manipulators believe that “the best defense is a good offense.” By shifting the blame, the aggravated person is now on the defensive. The manipulator remains innocent and free to continue, while his victims now feel guilt and shame.

Abusers often blame their victims or anyone else. Be careful with an apology that is actually another manipulation. Addicts often blame their addiction on other people, their demanding boss, or their “bitchy” spouse. A defenseless criminal defendant will attack the police or their evidence-gathering methods. Rapists used to be able to attack the reputation of their victims.

I counseled a couple in a domestic violence case, where the violent husband blamed his wife for his violence. I said, “I’m surprised your wife has so much power over you.” He was flabbergasted, since her entire agenda was to gain power over her.

Guilt and shame shift the focus to you, making you weak while the abuser feels superior. Martyrs use guilt when they say or imply, “After all I’ve done for you…” sometimes combined with criticism that you are selfish or ungrateful.

Shame goes beyond guilt to make you feel inadequate. It degrades you as a person, your traits or role, not just your actions. “Children would behave well if they had a parent who knew how to raise (or earn a decent living).” Comparing is a subtle but powerful form of shaming. It is harmful when parents compare siblings to each other or to playmates. Some spouses compare their partner to their ex to gain an advantage by making their partner feel inferior.

Guilt and shame can include “blaming the victim.” For example, find evidence on her partner’s phone that he or she is flirting. Your partner is outraged that you spoke on the phone. Now he or she has shifted focus to you. By blaming you, your partner has avoided a confrontation about flirting and may also lie about it, minimize it, or avoid it altogether. You, the true victim, feel guilty about peeping, undermining any justified anger, and therefore may allow the flirting to continue unaddressed.

Intimidation

Bullying is not always with direct threats, but it can be subtle. It can be achieved with a look or tone and statements like: “I always get my way”; “No one is irreplaceable.” “The grass is no greener”; “I have methods and friends in high places”; “You are not so young anymore”; or “Have you considered the repercussions of that decision?” Another strategy is to tell a scary story, such as: “She left her husband and lost her children, her house, everything.” “I fight to win. I almost killed a guy one time.”

play the victim

This is different from blaming the victim. Instead of blaming you, this “poor me” tactic arouses your guilt and sympathy into doing his bidding. “I don’t know what I’ll do if you don’t help me.” The messier personalities often threaten suicide if you leave. It can also take the form of “You don’t care about me”; “Why do you treat me like that?” or “No one helps me.” Its compliance breeds resentment, damages the relationship, and encourages continued manipulation. Guilt about another person’s behavior or situation is irrational guilt.

Conclusion

These tactics are destructive. You can forgive, but not forget. The handling is likely to continue. Over time, this is traumatic and can severely damage your self-esteem. Awareness is the first step. You may need help to see things clearly. Write down the conversations and try to identify the abuse and all the tactics used. Even more difficult is not taking the manipulator’s words personally and learning how to respond.

©DarleneLancer 2019

5 things I did to lose 92 pounds

I started my weight loss journey in 2012 after making a New Years resolution to lose some weight.

I was starting to develop symptoms associated with Diabetes and it scared me. My knees and hips ached every day and it was getting harder and harder to walk up and down the stairs.

why did i gain weight

I would say that a lot of my weight gain had to do with inactivity. I work from home so I didn’t really have to leave the house. I was very inactive. Also, during this time, my husband was also out of work, so it was a bit stressful for him. I did a lot of stress eating. He was eating at least 3000-5000 calories a day without exercise and burning less than a few hundred calories a day.

Here is what I did:

sugar detox

My husband came home from work one day and mentioned that a coworker had lost an enormous amount of weight simply by cutting sugar out of his diet.

It is almost impossible to eliminate all sugar from your diet. Fruits and some vegetables contain natural sugars. Some simple carbohydrates can be turned into sugar in your body. The sugar he was referring to was white sugar and brown sugar. I eliminated sugar from my diet.

I started looking at my diet and noticed that I was eating a lot of carbohydrates (pasta, bread, rice, potatoes). I removed them from my meal plan. I also eliminated donuts, honey buns, cakes, cookies, ice cream, and pies from my meals. I was not a juice or soda drinker so it was easy to knock out. I also eliminated cheese and cow’s milk from my diet completely.

My meals:

My meals consisted of: oatmeal, bananas, strawberries, eggs, turkey bacon, chicken, ground turkey, kale, kale, spinach, green beans, great northern beans, chic peas, broccoli, almonds, sunflower seeds. almond milk.

Water consumption:

I drank water half my weight in water every day. This included green tea with lemon (no sugar, honey or agave nectar). Probably the hardest, but I knew that drinking water would help me stay full longer, help me stay hydrated, and help flush toxins out of my system.

Exercise:

I walked more than 20 minutes a day 3-4 times a week. I would walk everywhere. The closest store was about 8 blocks away. I didn’t care how cold it was outside. I made a commitment to exercise as much as possible. I would make up reasons for having to walk to the store so that I could take my steps every day.

Bathroom Breaks:

Most people only release waste 2-3 times a week. I ate 3-5 meals a day but released 1-2 times a week. I was beyond constipated.

Why is waste release important?

Cleaning your colon has the ability to help you lose weight. People have lost up to 20 pounds in a period of one month. What a colon cleanse does is remove affected foods, parasites, worms, and intestinal sediment from your colon. One of the many things this will do is help jump-start your metabolism, which will help you burn fat faster.

I knew I had to do something, so I started taking castor oil. That thing is terrible and it made me throw up, but it worked. Within hours it was clearing but after i stopped the castor oil my system would not clear so i had to try something else.

What I found is that there are mild detox teas that will give you the same results. I started adding this along with a liquid multivitamin to my diet and can now do it 2-4 times a day.

My results:

As a result of changing my diet, increasing my vitamin intake, and releasing more waste, I lost 92 pounds over a 2-year period. I went from a size 18 to a size 10.

This was the plan I followed. I have been able to maintain my weight loss for the past 2 years.

For me this is not just a diet but a lifestyle change. I still enjoy the foods I like, but in moderation.

Can this work for you? Yes. The question to ask yourself is whether your current health is worth it.

GM Diet – My experiments with the truth

You can love it or you can hate it, but I am very sure that if you are looking for methods to lose weight, you can never ignore it. The General Motors Diet or the popularly known GM Diet occupies the first place in the most searched diet lists. Surprisingly, I still haven’t found any information about the GM Diet on any of the official General Motors sites (please update me if I’ve missed any).

Various sites, blogs and forums have discussed the GM diet, but in a scattered manner. My main intention behind this post is to represent various facets of this diet plan and to provide a complete overview, based on my own experiences and those of my friends.

BACKGROUND:

This diet plan was presented at a general meeting of General Motors Corp. on August 15, 1985, initially intended for employees of the General Motors company, to facilitate wellness and fitness. It was granted by the United States Department of Agriculture and the FDA, and later tested by the Johns Hopkins Research Center.

It was designed as a ‘detox diet program’, to improve metabolism through its systemic cleansing effects, reflected in a better disposition and a sense of well-being. As a final result, a weight loss of 4 to 6 kg was expected within the week of the program.

THE PLAN:

Here is the daily diet plan and its dietary significance. I have added some things from my experience and experiments, which worked.

Day 1:

Fruits of any kind (except bananas) in any quantity. The preferred fruits are melons and melons, due to their high water content. Also, you should drink at least 10 glasses of water.

By eating fruits, you are preparing your system for the upcoming program. Fresh fruits are nature’s perfect food, providing all the essentials needed to sustain life. Fruits are also a good source of antioxidants and are high in fiber. Fruits are also considered a negative calorie food, so they burn more calories for digestion than they provide.

Trust me, I’ve been on the GM diet twice and found this day the hardest. First of all, because of the sweet taste of all the fruits and, furthermore, because of an intense desire for bread or spices that develops towards the end of the day. The solution for this is the Soup to break the monotony of the fruity flavor.

Day 2:

The day can start with a large baked potato with a little butter for breakfast. It definitely fills you up with complex carbs to start the day after the first sweet and fruity day.

During the rest of the day, you should eat all kinds of vegetables of your choice, raw or cooked. Vegetables are very low in calories, high in nutrients and fiber. There is no limit on the quantity. This should be added with drinking at least 10 glasses of water.

You can also mash a baked potato, add some onion and curd, and season with chaat masala and red chili powder and a pinch of salt.

Day 3:

This day consists of a combination of fruits and vegetables of your choice, except banana and potato. Also, you should drink at least 10 glasses of water. Potato is avoided on this day as carbohydrates are available in the fruits you eat.

Varieties of mixed salads can be made with fruit slices. If you eat more cucumber and melons, you are more likely to lose weight than any other vegetable or fruit. Adding curd to the vegetable salad, in the form of a ‘raita’, will make it more palatable towards night, when it becomes monotonous.

Day 4:

A day where you can’t eat anything but eight bananas along with three glasses of milk. It is not mandatory to eat 8 bananas; you can have less too. In fact, you can feel full with 4-5 bananas in the whole day. This is the day when you can clearly feel your cravings for food decrease significantly. It feels divine, exceeding your ‘desires’. Don’t forget to drink at least 10 glasses of water, as usual.

Bananas will act as a provider of easily digestible carbohydrates, along with a reserve of sodium and potassium.

Day 5:

This is considered a “holiday,” in which you should eat up to two (10-ounce) servings of lean beef combined with six whole tomatoes, as a source of fiber. On this day, you should increase your daily water intake to at least 14 glasses. This is to cleanse your system of the uric acid that is produced. You will experience colorless urine on this day.

Beef is a source of protein and iron and therefore an alternative can be paneer (tofu, soy paneer for best results) along with mushrooms for vegetarians. Many people have recommended rice as a substitute for beef, but considering the nutritional content, rice may not be the appropriate substitute.

Day 6:

Another day with beef and vegetables. Today you can eat any amount of beef combined with cooked or raw vegetables. Keep your daily water intake to 14 glasses. You can add the Soup to spice up your day a bit.

Iron and protein from the beef or paneer-mushroom combo, while fiber and nutrients from the vegetables. Up to this point, you must have experienced an energetic feeling and an awareness of the power of natural foods.

Day 7:

Food intake on this day should consist of a bowl of brown rice with fruit juices and any vegetables you wish to eat. Drink 14 glasses of water.

The juices will break the fast (?) providing the essential nutrients together with the vegetable filling. Brown rice provides the carbohydrates.

You should now be at least 4kg lighter than day one, but more energetic and free from cravings for high calorie things.

Soup:

The following soup is a modified version of GM Wonder Soup as it is not possible to get Lipton onion soup mix everywhere as suggested in GM Soup. The modified soup parallels ‘rassam’ or ‘saaram’, which is served in South India. This soup can be consumed in large quantities throughout the program. It is meant to be a supplement to your diet.

Boil a few large chopped onions, tomatoes, cabbage, and celery in water. Add the sambhar masala to taste. You can also add tomato puree (but with skin on) instead of tomatoes to make it thicker. It can be seasoned with herbs and aromas. You can also add: finely chopped asparagus, peas, corn, cauliflower, green beans or mushrooms.

General instructions for every day:

  • You can squeeze a lemon to flavor the water you drink every day.
  • No alcohol of any kind as it provides empty calories.
  • Salt should be used as little as possible.
  • Use artificial sweetener, in case you can’t stay away from the sweet taste.
  • No fruit juices until day seven.
  • Black coffee or tea is allowed.

You can repeat the program, if you want to lose more weight, but it is suggested that you should take a gap of at least two weeks between two programs.

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Now the most important part: the doubts, accusations and myths.

“It works by simply losing the body’s water content and not actually losing fat.”

A. First of all, there is no mention of restricting water intake on any day. How can you lose only water if we are consuming at least 10-14 glasses of water every day, added to the unlimited amount of soup and the water contained in melons, fruits and vegetables?

b. Basically, it works on the principle of “negative calorie foods”, in which you eat certain foods that require more calories to burn than they provide. High-fiber foods fill you up but do not provide the required calories, instead requiring more calories to burn, which is derived from stored energy stores.

“The skin dries out and may lose hair during and after the GM diet.”

A. At least I haven’t met anyone who knows me complaining about this, but I found this in a few blog posts. The reason may be an insufficient amount of water intake and not supplying enough protein sources on specific days.

“It’s a temporary loss and you regain all the weight lost in a couple of weeks.”

A. Obviously if you resume your high calorie meal once more. It is not difficult to lose weight, but it is difficult to maintain it. Malvika, my wife who is a dietitian, always recommends a maintenance diet program after the GM diet program as follows:

Yo. Only liquids in the form of soups, buttermilk, or fruit juices for dinner for three consecutive days in one week. This should be continued endlessly, until you want your weight to come back.

ii. Drink plenty of water as if you were on the GM diet.

iii. Exercise regularly.

“It’s just a strict diet and fad, nothing more!”

A. First of all, it is not promoted as a weight loss diet, but rather as a detox diet that cleanses your system from the inside out. Weight loss is just a byproduct of it.

b. Even if one sees it as a ‘crash diet’, it surely won’t hurt you, but it will ‘shift’ your weight in the shortest amount of time, thus motivating many who tend to drop their regular diet and exercise regimens within the first month. . for not getting the desired results. Once you can ‘see’ your weight drop, your willingness to try harder increases.

vs. As stated above, it’s useless unless you back it up with a maintenance program. You can’t be on a GM diet for life, and you can’t and shouldn’t every month. Instead, use it as an initial motivator and switch to a liquid dinner course later.

MY OWN EXPERIENCE:

I myself have done the GM diet twice. The first time I was very sincere in following him. Thanks to my wife and mother, who made all the arrangements for meals each day. I lost 4 kgs by the fifth day. I couldn’t lose any more in the last two days and I guess because of the rice I ate, replacing the beef. The lost weight stayed there for a month, despite not actively maintaining it. I could have lost at least another pound if I had stayed away from rice, which I don’t like to eat anyway.

The next time I started it, but had to leave it in the middle due to some unavoidable circumstances. But I had seen a significant change in my weight and energy level during the four days that I followed it.

The most significant gain has been with my lipids coming down to normal. I’ve had really bad lipid levels for two years and after going on the GM diet twice, taking statins and taking self-prescribed homeopathic medicines for the same, my last lipid levels were perfectly within normal limits. Credit also goes to the high-fiber transgenic diet.

THE CONCLUSION:

If followed sincerely, the GM diet definitely has a positive effect on our metabolism. I agree that it is not an end in itself, and one needs to maintain metabolism through proper eating habits and exercise regimen. The GM diet cannot be a ‘quick and easy’ substitute for ‘exertion’, but it surely can be a boost for those who have never seen their weight drop, providing a ‘starting point’.

As Malvika says, ‘one should have a diet that one can follow for a lifetime…’ and that’s true! You can never have a GM diet for every day, as there are so many delicacies around to enjoy, but for that we need to have a balanced metabolism, in order to give them due justice.

Facts and myths about hair loss

Having attractive hair is a key component of our overall “package” along with fair skin, a bright smile, and a stylish ensemble. This is the paradigm of our appearance-conscious society. However, when we start to lose it, we start to feel like our overall appearance has been compromised.

If you are starting to go bald, know that it may be genetic and can come from either side of your family. If the hair loss gene is evident through the glowing dome of a relative or family member, it likely resides in you as well.

My brother spent much of his adult life under a welder’s helmet and has far more challenges to madness than our father. However, wearing a hat does not cause hair loss. Unless the head wear is so tight that it restricts blood flow, thus cutting off circulation to the hair follicles, that is not the cause of your loss.

  1. Any hair care product you use won’t make your hair fall out, so you can use hair gel, mousse, and hairspray…all to the delight of hair product retailers.
  2. Do not try headstands to promote blood flow to the hair follicle, it will not work and may give you a headache. (Do some people really do this?)
  3. Cutting your hair does not make it grow back thicker. This is a misconception. When you cut your hair, you blunt the ends, giving it the appearance of not only being darker, but also thicker. When hair grows naturally, the ends taper and appear finer and lighter. This is true for hair anywhere on your body.
  4. If you notice that your hair falls out when you blow-dry it, this may be due to the heat from the blow dryer. A blow dryer not only plumps up your hair, but it can also dry it out, burn it, and cause it to break. In this case, the hair grows back and the hair loss is not permanent.
  5. Brushing your hair can cause breakage and damage. It is better to use a comb. Brushing can also lead you down the path of baldness and split ends.
  6. Daily or excessive washing of your hair does not cause hair loss or the products you use when you wash it. It is recommended to wash your hair 3 times a week but washing more will not cause hair loss.
  7. Chemical hair coloring products will damage your hair if not used correctly, but they won’t cause you to lose your hair.
  8. Stress can cause hair loss if you have experienced, for example, surgery or some other traumatic event for your system. Stress can temporarily stop the growth of hair follicles. Eliminating your stress trigger will get your hair growth back on track.
  9. A hormonal imbalance can cause temporary hair loss, as is common in women after pregnancy. If it happens to you, the important thing to remember is that the hair will grow back.
  10. Hormones themselves are not related to hair loss, but be careful if you are a bodybuilder taking anabolic steroids. The chemical component in steroids will speed up hair loss and the recovery of the lost follicles will take years!

It seems that genetics is the leader when it comes to hair loss. What to do when your hair falls out?… Accept it. Shave it, stuff it, weave it, get a wig, or leave it alone. Whatever you choose to do, make it work for you and forget about everyone else. Your hair is not who you are!

Candida linked to diabetes

If you have diabetes, chances are you also have problems with a bacterium known as candida. Why is there a connection? Because every living human has candida in their system. Usually, “friendly bacteria” keep unfriendly yeast at bay, but certain factors can allow yeast to thrive, factors that are often triggered by diabetes.

For example, yeast infection is a cause of vaginal yeast infections in women, and while yeast infections are very common, they are even more common among women with diabetes. This is because diabetes affects the body’s immune system and its ability to fight infection. Candida growths that would take care of themselves naturally in non-diabetics become problematic. Also, high blood sugar levels (characteristic of diabetes) cause mucous membranes to become more sugary, which is a perfect environment for yeast to grow.

Diabetic women who have a yeast infection caused by yeast can usually clear it up just as easily as other women, provided they are diagnosed correctly. (Studies have shown that around a third of women who self-diagnosed themselves thought they had a yeast infection when in fact it was something else. Always see a doctor so that the appropriate condition can be treated!) Treating a yeast infection often takes more time. diabetic women, however. Usually, 14-day drug therapy is necessary to get rid of it in diabetic women, as opposed to a three- or seven-day schedule. But it’s just as treatable as it is for non-diabetic women, so the fact that it’s more common shouldn’t worry you.

Yeast causes other conditions besides yeast infections, including many that are also common in men. (In fact, a yeast infection is really the only “women’s only” condition related to yeast.) Candida is a bacterium that can develop into a full-blown fungus, and the entire body is susceptible to it.

For example, oral candidiasis, also known as oral thrush, is a fungal infection in the mouth that manifests as white or yellow patches. It occurs more often among diabetics. Antifungal medications, prescribed by your dentist, can fix it. It is important for anyone to practice good oral hygiene (brushing, flossing, etc.), but especially for people with diabetes, as their immune systems are slightly compromised and their blood sugar levels are slightly higher. , which creates an environment conducive to the growth of candida.

So it’s clear that people with diabetes need to take extra care to avoid conditions that lead to problems with the candida bacteria. But how do you know if you have diabetes? The most common symptoms of type 1 diabetes (the most serious variety) are frequent urination, excessive thirst, and increased appetite. Some patients also have blurred vision, fatigue, and irritability.

If you suspect you may have diabetes, it’s important to see a doctor right away and get tested. Diabetes was once deadly, but now it is almost always easily treatable, but it needs to be treated. Patients who control their blood sugar levels and take the necessary treatments and precautions usually lead normal, healthy lives. They are at higher risk for yeast infections, oral thrush, and other conditions caused by candida, but even these can be controlled.