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The close bond that develops between parent and child is well documented to be a driving force of life, its legendary power to guard and protect making history throughout the centuries. You read of parents rescuing their children from burning cars or sinking ships, finding near-superhuman strength to lift many times their body weight, or surviving underwater for impossible lengths of time to save their child from drowning. and so on. Occasionally this life force becomes distorted and harmful to parents, children, and anyone unfortunate enough to be affected by the association.

Sometimes dubbed Umbilical Addiction, the most common form of this disorder is in females, the maternal instinct spreads into an obsessive need to stifle and control, eventually turning the child into an overweaned and helpless shadow.

It is possible that this unpleasant condition appears in male fathers; attention is commonly focused on a daughter but may appear between parents and sons. Mothers who develop an obsession with their sons tend to side with the son against the father, making it impossible for the father to maintain the usual disciplinary orientation.

The symptoms of obsession start early, when the child is a toddler, or even before the child is out of diapers. The mother may go to great lengths to ensure that the child is completely dependent, lavishing attention and unnecessary gifts on the child to ensure devotion and loyalty. Detection and control of this behavior is invariably impossible, as all the symptoms are confused with ‘pampering’, an oversimplified and convoluted expression that is sometimes applied to a disorder with much less serious implications. The father is overprotective, alienating other supportive influences that might otherwise have been helpful in controlling the situation.

As the child develops, the features of this terrible condition become more apparent. Interference with the mother’s (or father’s) control results in anger, or even aggression, toward anyone who tries to intervene in the child’s behavioral difficulties. As the child grows older, early coddling tactics lead to unacceptable acts of rebellion and disobedience, often drawing disapproval from the rest of the family.

The child staggers in adolescence showing alarming behavioral dysfunctions such as stealing, lying, rudeness, and the young adult will always remain very attached to the same parent who causes the damage.

Elaborate lies can be concocted to cover up petty crimes, both by parents and children, until finally, by the time the young adult leaves school and enters the workplace, the offender has become a dangerous, obsessed narcissistic psychopath. with the ego Sometimes the situation has festered for such a long period that it is impossible for the child to function without the approval and support of the parents.

In extreme cases, the child’s dependency combined with parental authoritarian control results in an incestuous relationship, as the child is unable to cope with normal interaction with the opposite sex.

Each time the “child” is confronted with authority, even the authority of the offending parent, the reaction becomes more intensely antisocial, until finally the individual develops a strong dislike of and active antagonism to most social codes. Throughout most of this adult’s young life, excuses have been found for his stealing, lying, idleness, and general delinquency. When evidence is presented to this person that such behavior cannot continue, the result can be dangerously aggressive and sometimes vindictive.

These people commonly show a desire to adopt pets, such as cats and dogs, but are invariably cruel to animals. The possession of such pets gives a person comfort and fills a need that is the result of having few friends. However, unable to face responsibility, they lash out at the animal when asked to feed it in any way that causes personal discomfort.

The early childhood of these people is the key to behavioral disorders that manifest later in life. The adult cannot bear any responsibility or control, and often the adult’s inability to cope with authority and routine leads them to become increasingly antisocial. They are often unable to interact normally with people and choose to work in jobs that do not require social skills. An ideal profession for such a person would be long-distance truck driving, headlight maintenance, or working in very noisy environments that impede conversation—professions that require long periods of solitude and require little cooperation with colleagues.

Those who have reached adulthood have an ingrained inability to raise their own children. Typical behavior for such a person would be to have children but then treat them badly, and so the cycle continues. Many families tolerate such people because they believe that their behavior is merely eccentric; some even imagine them colorful in some way, someone to “put up with” because, after all, we are all different.

The chaos caused within close family circles by such behavior is unimaginably distressing, especially when the parent fabricates lies to cover up unacceptable behavior, sometimes at the expense of other family members. Often the cycle of deceit continues for years, perhaps up to and after the death of the father. Occasionally, the disorder develops into a more sinister condition when the father, due to death, is no longer able to provide emotional support.