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How does it feel to walk past a homeless person? If you said you wanted to laugh, you’re an idiot. The interesting thing is that most of us don’t feel sorry for the bum, we just get depressed. I know for me, I actually feel a bit sad. And if I don’t give him money, I feel a little guilty. It’s just a negative experience. But the key is that pity is not a big factor here. Instead, you want to get away as quickly as you can to avoid those negative feelings.

This is an extreme example, but it’s that same need, that same pathetic beggar energy that turns women away from insecure losers. We all have a little need in us. As a man, you WANT to sleep with women. If it wasn’t, you’d be gay. It’s okay to want, as long as you don’t get into dangerous territory. Which you probably ARE, because almost all men do. Hell, I still do it from time to time. Especially if it’s an Asian woman with a big rack. But I won’t be obvious. I can watch too long. It’s okay if she doesn’t catch me. But if you do, you’ll have a little idea of ​​that pressure, that “please, give me, give me” you feel when you walk past bums begging for a penny.

That’s how you know you’re being needy around women.

They ignore you when you try to talk to them. They whisper to their friends as they look at you. They make faces when they see you looking at them. They give you one word answers. They won’t give you their number. They stop calling/texting you. They kick you out They get a restraining order.

You are NAPPY if you have experienced any of the above! (Wait, what?) Let me explain.

There’s a term in psychology called “need for social approval.” Describes the mental process of needing to be liked by others in order to feel a sense of well-being. And it is indirectly related, that is, it is the opposite of healthy, social and successful behavior. In fact, the greater the need for social approval you have, the less effective you will be in almost every aspect of your life, except turning people away from you. The layman’s term is “insecurity.” And it’s “people repellant”.

But back to “diaper?” The need for social approval is shortened to the term “nApp”. So, being the super creative guy that I am, I’m going to start calling students “diapers” when I feel like the need is holding them back.

Call yourself, the next time you feel that need creeping in. This is actually a great inside game technique. Instead of beating yourself up, see the humor in what you did and playfully point out the craziness in it. Laugh about it. Recognize how foolish it is to try to make a stranger you JUST MET like you. Why would you do it? You don’t even know them! Maybe all they like are things you don’t like. In that case, wouldn’t they like you to be something bad?

Seriously, the most common way guys telegraph diapering is in the tracking game. You mustered up the courage to reach out, you pushed through that whole conversation, you remembered to climb, you got his number. She was SO HOT. You can’t mess it up, especially after all that work! So you try to make a prank over text, so he doesn’t forget about you. But it’s too soon, and she doesn’t get the joke. So wait, maybe 15 minutes. Maybe he was offended! Better call and explain. So you call. And leaving a long voicemail. And then you feel stupid and send another text apologizing for the voicemail, justifying it by saying that you really like her and didn’t mean to make her mad. Enough! Fix your tracking game. Don’t let another number go to waste.