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In 1980, when young Stacy Lattisaw sang the hit song “Let Me Be Your Angel,” she had no idea the lyrics would be prophetic.

Fast forward to today, we have Stacy Lattisaw-Jackson, minister and motivational speaker, CEO, wife of 19 years, and mother of two teenagers. Talking with Stacy was rewarding because she knows where she has been, what she has, and where she is going. Her purpose and her passion were clear when she told me “I’m not the same girl”, which is the name of her book. “The closer I get to God the more I know what her plan is for me.” Stacy is the executive director of Believer’s Building Bridges; her company published her book and is also home to her Youth Empowerment Program. Stacy is on a mission to reach children. She holds conferences and youth events, encourages children to finish school, convincing them that they don’t have to follow the crowd. She challenges them to stand up and be leaders. She also teaches about the principle of integrity and not being afraid to support abstinence. “There are not many role models for our children today, so I do my best to be in the gap for many of them.” Her heart goes out to those who are being bullied “I had a hard time at school. Because I was so light, they called me white girl and yellow girl. I was quiet, shy and somewhat shy, so people took it as stagnant . up.” Unfortunately, after she became a child star, she took a turn for the worse. “You know that when you reach a certain level of success, not everyone is happy for you. And a lot of times the opposition comes from our own people.” Not only did she have to worry about the students, she now had teachers joining in: “I was 15 and the grown women were looking me up and down and talking to each other about what I had.

“I handed in my exams and they said they couldn’t find it, anything to harass me.” Eventually, Stacy’s parents had enough and decided to homeschool her. She went on to be a star.

Following her crossover and mainstream status with “Love on a Two Way Street,” “Miracles,” and “Let Me be your Angel,” Stacy was taken under the wings of Narada Michael Walden and produced five successful albums that led to her sign with Motown in 1986.

It was at this moment that Stacy began to see things that disheartened her. “I realized that she was deep in an industry that had a lot of corrupt people.” “My daughter Kayla wants to get into the industry, she sings and writes songs. But I won’t push her, in fact I encourage her to wait until she is a little older. I want her to enjoy her childhood and get ready. for the life of the industry.” Stacy said, “I had a nice experience being a child star, but it’s a lot if you’re not prepared.”

I understand a lot of what Michael Jackson went through when he was a child star. “I was lucky enough to open for the Jackson Family tour, which was a great opportunity for me. I actually got a chance to speak with Michael, a moment I will treasure for as long as I live.” He reflected on the childhood he never had. “I didn’t know how much I missed growing up until one day I took my son Kevin to one of his games. I was sitting in the car watching them party like teenagers and my mind flashed back. I realized I never went to any dances or dance parties. school graduation, and I never attended any school games. I was crushed and cried right there in the car.”

Road travel can be a lot and when you’re 15 it can be scary. There were sad moments when “I was forced to leave my family and fly 20 hours to an event in Africa. I was tired and didn’t want to go. I sat down and cried because I was exhausted but I still had to go.” And then there were fun memories “like the time I was on stage and I forgot the words to the second verse. I had to play it back and make up words.” “Now this was one of my hit songs, so everyone in the audience was singing the right words and I was singing the wrong ones.”

“I guess everyone was saying what is he singing,” as he laughed. At this point, they had Stacy on the road at least 4 nights a week. “We had fun but we got very tired.”

It wasn’t until she recorded “Where Do We Go From Here” with Johnny Gill that she realized she wasn’t ready to be in the music business. Although her mother was traveling with her on the road, they all had very limited knowledge of the industry. “We were being ripped off. This was a hit record on the chart for several weeks at No. 1, and we were told we only sold 30 or 40,000 records. We both knew that couldn’t be true. Johnny was going to audit the company.” her, but she knew it was time to leave the industry. I told them to go ahead and keep my share of the money.”

Stacy eventually left the industry after marrying a consistent sound engineer named Kevin Jackson, who was determined to be in her life forever. “My husband was my sound guy at the time, and our first date was at Pizza Hut,” she laughs. “He left his business and we dated for 11 days straight. Six months later we got engaged, six months after that.” we were married.” She talks about her relationship, “divorcing us is not an option. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, and we have had our share of arguments, but we are God fearing and respectful of one another. The secret to a successful marriage is two forgiving people.” Seventeen years later they have a thriving business and he is particularly supportive of her ministry. He is currently in the studio working on his Gospel Project and will announce the release of new music in the future. “This time I’m ready.” Stacy encourages everyone to “learn the business you want to be in, harness your gifts and talents, find out what you’re good at, and don’t give up. Some people give up right before the breakup hits. Get to know who God is and You will know your purpose.”

“Stacy, what do you want people to know about you?”

“I want them to know the real me. I didn’t get a chance to show that on some shows, like the article about ‘Unsung Hero.’ And that’s one of the reasons I wrote my book. I want people to know that I’m not the same girl, I have renewed myself!”

Do you know that a lot of guys are clueless when it comes to reading women? They don’t even know that a girl might be trying to avoid them and they feel the opposite. She will see that it is extremely important to read her signs, otherwise it could lead to a lot of embarrassment on her part. Read on to find out how you can read these clues and save yourself from a potential tantrum….

Well, I need to go to the bathroom. If a girl says this to you in a bar or in a public place, then it is more than obvious that she will leave and never come back. This is a good way of telling you that she doesn’t like you and she wants to get rid of you as quickly as possible. Therefore, you should not stay and wait for him to look like a complete fool.

I have a boyfriend. This is another tactic many girls use to get rid of guys they just don’t seem to like. You see, if she says that she has a boyfriend when she’s alone in a bar, then it’s more than obvious that she’s trying to get rid of you and she probably doesn’t like you.

She is paying more attention to her friends than to you. This is another strong sign that she is trying to get rid of you and she is doing it by giving you strong body language signals that she doesn’t like you. You will see that more or less she could have her back to you and she will be chatting with her friends. Again, this is pretty much like telling you to go away and you’ll have to do it eventually if she avoids you completely and only talks to her friends.

During the 1920s, Bauhaus designer and architect Marcel Breuer created numerous furniture designs that today have become classics widely used by interior designers for both home and corporate interiors.

Breuer’s innovation was to use bent tubular steel in the creation of furniture. At the time, using tubular steel for furniture was a revolutionary idea. Breuer had been inspired by the bicycle handlebars he was already familiar with, and the use of bent tubular steel was first feasible because the German steel manufacturer Mannesmann was able to refine the process of making seamless steel tubes.

As he said: if you can bend a tube into a handlebar, why can’t you bend it into a piece of furniture? The result was a light, functional and attractive piece of furniture. Because it was inexpensive to mass produce, it fulfilled the social and aesthetic ideals of the modernist movement.

Although Breuer created many enduring chair designs, the Breuer chair generally refers to the Cesca chair he created in 1928 and was later named after his daughter Francesca. The innovative design of the Cesca Chair was its elegant cantilevered shape using the tubular steel structure and the wood and cane seat and backrest.

But the Cesca chair was not Breuer’s first breakthrough in modern furniture design: that honor belongs to the classic Model B3 chair, later called the Wassily chair after Breuer’s friend, the artist Wassily Kandinsky.

Both the Cesca and Wassily chairs have been in production since the late 1920s. The trademark rights to both the Cesca chair and the Wassily chair are owned by Knoll, a company founded by Hans G. Knoll in 1938 in New York. The Knoll Group still produces various Breuer furniture designs and in particular two of his classic designs, the Cesca chair and the Wassily chair. Reproduction chairs are also produced by other manufacturers around the world, who use different names to market the furniture.

The Wassily chairs available today through Knoll have the following specifications: The dimensions of the chair are 31 inches wide x 27 1.2 inches deep x 29 inches high, with a seat height of 16 ½ inches. The seating surface is upholstered in thick cowhide leather available in black, light brown or white beige.

Breuer’s next innovative design, after the Wassily chair, was the Cesca chair. The B5 chair design was intended to be “a dramatic antidote to the overstuffed seating of the Edwardian era”.

With a true cantilever design, the Cesca chair has no legs at the back and relies on the tensile properties of the steel tubes. Breuer’s brilliant idea was to use unreinforced steel tubing, thus creating a free-swinging chair that came close to his ideal of “sitting on air columns.”

This chair was Breuer’s greatest financial success, and though radical for its time, today it seems logical, both delicate and strong. A large number of companies have produced this extremely popular design, so it can be difficult to select the “official” makers of the Cesca chair, and there are many excellent reproductions, but there have been three companies that worked directly with Breuer on production. of the Cesca Chair.

Thonet was the first, starting in 1927 and continuing through World War II. During the 1950s, Dino Gavina, a furniture manufacturer in Foligno, Italy, began making furniture with Breuer’s involvement. Then, during the 1960s, Knoll purchased Gavina, who today are the only manufacturers of authentic “Cesca” chairs.

When purchasing a Cesca chair, there are a few details to keep in mind that differentiate a high-quality Cesca chair from a poor reproduction: 1) the front edge of the wooden seat should curve slightly downward with the downward sweep of the piping ; 2) the ends of the tubes must be continuous with the tubes (no seam between the tube and the cap); and 3) the bends in the tube should maintain a constant radius and not flatten out a bit as you bend. The Knoll Cesca chair is available in a version without arms and with arms.

After leaving the Bauhaus, Breuer continued his experiments with furniture design, briefly working for the Isokon Company in Britain. His design for the Isokon recliner chair was influenced by Alvar Aalto, who was working with molded wood in Finland at the same time. Interestingly, Alvar Aalto was inspired by Breuer’s tubular steel furniture from the 1920s.

In 1935, when Breuer arrived in London to design furniture for Isokon, he had planned to continue his work using tubular steel. However, Isokon’s owner, Jack Pritchard, insisted that Breuer should work in wood rather than metal, and preferably plywood. Pritchard had previous experience in the plywood business which led him to start a furniture company. When the former director of the Bauhaus, Walter Gropius, arrived in London in 1935, he consolidated his plans. He became Isolkon’s design controller and it was he who suggested to Pritchard that he hire Breuer, the former master of the Bauhaus carpentry workshop, as his designer.

The result was the design of a superb five-piece set including an armchair, divan and nest of tables, now considered milestones in 20th century furniture design.

Although the company produced furniture by various designers, it was Breuer’s designs that eventually brought Isokon international fame. Isokon’s designs from the 1930s have endured to the present day and are among the most important and original furniture designs of the 20th century.

All of these chair designs (the Cesca, Wassily, and Isokon chairs) have remained classics since they were created in the early 20th century, and continue to be elegant and durable additions to any home or office.

Couples are finding more reasons to seek long distance relationship advice due to the seemingly insurmountable challenges of maintaining this type of relationship. It’s great to have someone to call your love, but having a love life isn’t that easy when the person you’re in a relationship with is thousands of miles away. No one really intends to be in a long distance relationship just because of the innate difficulties of such a setup. However, sometimes love just blossoms between people who don’t live in the same city, or in some cases not even in the same country. It happens a lot these days as the Internet and telecommunications systems allow for more intimate long-distance communications. In other cases, people who spend a lot of time together and eventually fall in love end up leaving to stay elsewhere for extended periods due to work or other circumstances.

Difficult but not impossible to maintain

Being physically apart hurts. This is especially true if you want nothing more than to be around the person you love all the time. Relationships are plagued with doubts and fears, but these concerns are more pronounced in couples who are apart most of the time.

The more relevant question is whether the couple has what it takes to survive the situation. At first, the excitement of the first days of being in love drowns out everything else. Eventually reality catches up with them and sometimes reality bites them. However, this type of relationship only fails if the people involved adopt a defeatist attitude. Although long distance couples are difficult, they manage to forge a stronger bond despite the distance. It’s not an impossible task, but a clear understanding of what it takes to maintain a long-distance relationship is needed for the setup to work.

Thoughts to walk away from

The downfall of a long distance relationship or any relationship is self-doubt. It’s natural to feel hesitant, especially in the long pauses between moments spent together as a couple. It is also quite natural to ask for reinsurance. However, if doubt dominates the relationship, then it is doomed to fail. Also, self-defeating thoughts and frustrations don’t help at all. Giving in to hopelessness only makes it harder to cope with your loved one’s absence. Instead, the couple should focus on finding new ways to express their love and reciprocate their mutual admiration. Being positive and optimistic is the best approach to avoid heartache and pain.

Prioritize who you love

Moving to another city and being away from the one you love means juggling schedules and dealing with the time zone difference, in some situations. Buying time is given a new context, but if the person you’re in a relationship with is a priority, then it shouldn’t be that complicated. If making time for this person is at the top of your list, then there’s no chance the relationship will fail, even though everyone else predicts it won’t last.

The venerable Martini. Perhaps the most famous cocktail and, without a doubt, the drink mixed with the most myths, stories and traditions. It’s also the cocktail that has a following and its own brand of snobbery. You don’t usually see two people arguing over a Planters Punch.

The basic martini recipe is as simple as you can get. Traditionally, a Martini is made with gin and dry white vermouth, although recently the Vodka Martini has become much more popular. The standard modern martini is five parts gin or vodka to one part vermouth, although few bartenders today would follow that model. The ingredients are shaken or stirred with ice, filtered and served “straight” without ice in a chilled cocktail glass and garnished with an olive.

Martini purists are upset that vodka is now the liquor of choice when people order a martini. They insist that it should be called ‘Vodka Martini’ or, if they are very picky, ‘Bradford’.

The amount of vermouth to add is also a subject of great debate. The less vermouth, the drier the Martini. Today the most common way to mix vermouth is to coat the ice cubes in vermouth and then throw away the leftover vermouth. Some progressive bars now use vermouth sprinklers to cover the ice (thereby saving a lot of vermouth).

Shaken or Stirred?

According to the true Martini drinker, because vermouth mixes easily and evenly with its solvent (gin or vodka), a martini should always be mixed in a shaker glass. For the purists, shaking “bruises” the gin and also cracks the ice when diluting the Martini.

However, thanks to novel and movie spy James Bond, who ordered his Martinis “Shaken, Not Stirred,” the Martini is shaken more often these days.

Shake aficionados say that, as with Scotch, a little water creates a rounder flavor. They also claim that the shaking action adds oxygen to the drink and sharpens the flavor and distributes the vermouth more evenly.

History

The generally accepted origin of the Martini begins in San Francisco in 1862. A cocktail named after the nearby town of Martinez was served at the Occidental Hotel. People drank at the hotel before taking the afternoon ferry to Martinez across the bay. The original cocktail consisted of two ounces of “Martini and Rosso” Italian sweet vermouth, one ounce of sweet Old Tom gin, two drops of maraschino cherry liquid, a dash of bitters, shaken and served with a lemon wedge. By the end of the 19th century, the Martini had been transformed into a simpler form. Two dashes of orange bitters were mixed with half a jigger of dry French vermouth and half a jigger of dry English gin, stirred and served with an olive.

But it was Prohibition and the relative ease of illegal gin making that led to the rise of the Martini as the predominant cocktail of the mid-20th century.

With the repeal of Prohibition and the easy availability of quality gin, the drink became progressively drier and less vermouth was added.

The first reference to the use of vodka in a Martini was in the 1950s, but it was Ian Fleming’s James Bond novels and subsequent films that raised the profile of the vodka martini in the 1960s. In the novel Casino Royale Bond’s recipe for his “vespa martini” was three parts Gordon’s gin, one part Russian vodka, half a Kina Lillet aperitif measure, shaken until ice cold, served with a lemon wedge. In Bond’s second novel, Live and Let Die, Bond drank standard vodka martinis.

In the 1970s and 1980s, the martini was considered old-fashioned and was replaced by more elaborate cocktails and wine coolers. But the mid-1990s saw a revival of the drink and an explosion of new versions. These new specialty martinis can be made with combinations of fresh fruit juices, splashes of cream and brightly colored liqueurs.

Instead of the traditional olives, onion cocktail or lemon twist, new garnishes such as marinated capers, fresh herbs, coffee beans or sun-dried tomatoes are used.

Today, the Martini in all its versions has returned to its position as the quintessential cocktail in the world.

Folklore

The Martini comes with its own folklore and many former Martini drinkers have their own recipes to create the perfect or driest Martini. The quest for dryness has taken on strange proportions.

Winston Churchill’s recipe called for pouring gin into a glass and then simply bowing in the direction of France. Alfred Hitchcock’s recipe called for five parts gin and a quick glance at a bottle of vermouth. Ernest Hemingway liked to order a “Montgomery,” which was a martini mixed at a gin:vermouth ratio of 15:1, the odds that Field Marshal Montgomery would supposedly want before going into battle.

In the 1958 film Teacher’s Pet, Clark Gable mixes a martini by upending the vermouth bottle, then running the moistened cork around the rim of the glass before filling it with gin.

The classic 1970s TV show MASH satirically attacked this dryness fetish. ‘Hawkeye’, working at his still, tells his fellow military medics, “I am pursuing my lifelong quest for the perfect, absolutely driest martini to be found on this or any other world. And I believe I can have found the perfect formula”. …he pours six glasses of gin and drinks it while looking at a picture of Lorenzo Schwartz, (the inventor of vermouth).”

I will never forget the day my mom told me to wash the strawberries. Like a typical inquisitive 4-year-old, I asked, ‘Why?’ Because fruit pickers pick their noses was his answer. Then I washed them, sometimes.

Now 31, I buy organic, which must mean snot-free, and of course pesticide-free better. But as a medical student with a wife, two children and a mortgage, the wallet is stressed by buying organic produce.

Demand for organic produce has increased, especially in Seattle, which has brought the cost down a bit; but not enough during tough financial times.

So I am wondering which of the non-organic vegetables and fruits are the safest to eat. A watermelon looks hard, it has a large thick skin. A juicy, thin-skinned peach must be really tasty to insects, so growers must spray it.

Obviously, this reasoning is not foolproof and it did not reassure me when buying non-organic products.

To do? I enrolled in medical school, reached the second year of the nutrition course and found out which are the twelve fruits and vegetables most plagued by pesticides. Good plan Ben. $50,000 later, now I know what the twelve are.

Out of cash again, I needed to refresh my memory. By doing so, I thought that it could also benefit the public. This information is not new, but it can definitely be new to you.

So which are the most toxic? This information is gathered from FoodNews and they compiled the information from the Environmental Working Group.

Most Popular Fruits and Vegetables with Highest Pesticides

• apples
• Peppers
• Celery
• cherries
• Grapes (imported)
• nectarines
• peaches
• pears
• potatoes
• red raspberries
• Spinach
• strawberries

So my rationale for thin skin products was not all bad. I never would have guessed the potatoes though.

So what needs to be done? Not eating these sprinkled fruits and vegetables? quite. Definitely do not feed them to your children. The body mass of a child is much less than that of a fully grown adult. So it doesn’t take a lot of non-organic strawberries to potentially inflict damage on a little one. The best method is to buy these twelve organic. If you can’t, wash them with the pesticide-removing soaps that are sold in good stores. There will still be poisons harbored in the product, but at least lessened. You can also peel apples and other products with the skin, but then you lose nutrients along with some pesticides. Therefore, you can also go eat something made of plastic, since it is toxic and has no nutritional value. Organic is the best bet.

Spend your meager dollars buying these twelve organic fruits and vegetables, or keep them away from your kids.

Now that you’ve bought expensive organic strawberries, what are the safest non-organic fruits and vegetables?

Most popular fruits and vegetables with fewer pesticides:

• Asparagus
• Lawyers
• bananas
• Broccoli
• Cauliflower
• Sweet corn)
• kiwi fruit
• Onions
• handles
• papaya
• pineapples
• peas (sweet)

To save you from typing all this, I have provided you with the option to view the FoodNews Wallet Guide [http://www.healthegoods.com/content/walletguide.pdf]. Cut out the guide and keep it in your wallet. Go shopping without having to guess. For those of you who want to know the details of the report of the Environmental Working Group on Organophosphate Insecticides in Baby Food, you can see it.

Enjoy your shopping without worries. If there is something that is on your mind, please let me know. I will do my best to answer your health questions.

In health,
Good

(c) 2005 Benjamin Lynch of HealthE Goods

I work for an online sports accessory company that offers a wide variety of basketball apparel and equipment. So much so that potential customers are often confused about what to buy and what will ultimately fit their needs. Most of the confusion concerns basketball standards, hoops, and goals and what each entails. Well, here’s the skinny on each.

Standard Basketball: Basketball standards are the most expensive of the bunch. They can be portable or fixed. When you think about the basketball standard, you should think about the type of basketball system that is used in the NBA or on the playground. Simply put, a basketball standard is the complete package: rim, backboard, net, and post.

Basketball Hoop: When little Johnny writes to Santa Claus saying he wants a basketball hoop for Christmas, he means he wants the whole package. However, a basketball hoop is not the complete package. A basketball hoop is a combination of a hoop, a net, and a backboard, but not a post. Think of your high school gym. Yeah, he probably had a basketball standard somewhere that the basketball team probably used for actual games. But there were also basketball hoops on the surrounding walls. That’s what a basketball hoop is: a hoop, net, and backboard that can be attached to an existing structure.

Basketball Goal: The name of this particular team gets its name from its intended purpose. The word goal is something you strive for. In sports, the goal is often the place where points are scored. Well, the same is true in basketball. The goal is just another name for the hoop.

When shopping for sports equipment, it’s good to know the difference between the various technical terms associated with each individual sport. If you don’t, you may inadvertently buy something you didn’t want.

Oh, the “pulling back guy”. Some of you know instantly what I’m talking about, while others may be scratching their heads and thinking, “Huh?” Trust me, EVERYONE knows what I mean. But in the interest of starting on the same page, here’s the basic definition of “type fallback”:

When a man, who chased you at first, lessens his chase.

In its most benign form, “man throwback” will include (but not be limited to) the following behaviors:

– Call (a little) less or not call for a couple of days at a time.

– Wanting to see you (a little) less than at the beginning.

– Being (a little) cold, distant or aloof.

– Acting (slightly) less enthusiastic and sure of yourself and/or the relationship.

In its most extreme form, “type receding” can manifest in one or more of the following ways:

– Discarding you completely.

– Disappearing for a week at a time.

– By saying things like “I need space”, “I’m not sure how I feel” and “It’s not you, it’s me”.

– Putting little or no effort into maintaining the relationship or moving things forward. Basically, he withdraws.

Dealing with “guy rollback” can be one of the most frustrating and scary things a woman faces in her relationship. And, unfortunately, our natural instinct is to “get closer” to our boy. I say “unfortunately” because that is the exact opposite of what you should do. (And, more often than not, doing what comes naturally will have a disastrous result.) So here you go. Here’s how to handle “type backtracking”:

1. Minimize it: One of the basic principles of a relationship is that the slower things go in the beginning, the less your guy will back down. You know I’ve told you that it’s important not to be with your man every minute of the day? Why is it essential that you don’t give up your own life to spend time with him? Why do you need to curb how often he wants to see you and sometimes say “no”? How crucial is it not to jump every time he asks? Sisters, THIS is why. By being out of his reach and a bit hesitant, you create HEAT. You create a burning desire. Nobody likes things that are too easy to achieve; especially men. When he has to work a little to attract and hold your attention, when he has a chance to miss you, that’s when he’s much less likely to back down. So in the beginning, your job is to stay cool. Let him initiate calls, texts, and dates. Chase him. And stay busy with your life so seeing too much of it isn’t even an option.

2. The sexual factor: After sex, most men will regress to some degree. In a way, it’s a bit of a test. You’re probably wondering if you’ll act like most women before you and go all “girlfriend-y” and “relationship-y.” Again, if you have to WAIT a bit, you have to push a bit, you’re less likely to back down. No matter what happens, after having sex with a man for the first time, your job is to act like nothing has changed. You don’t start calling all the time (or answer all their calls on the first ring). You don’t get clingy or needy. He doesn’t ask for reassurance about where he stands or where the relationship is headed. Keep calm. You don’t act any different. And this will usually prevent “post-sex flashback.”

3. Don’t pressure him to back down: With the way a lot of women behave these days, it’s no wonder men back down. You’re not going to win his heart by baking him cookies, posting sweet words on his Facebook wall, or buying him stuff. In fact, the more you “give” at the beginning, the more you will regress. The same goes for saying “I love you” first, trying to pressure him into a relationship, or trying to move things along quickly. Let HIM be the initiator. Let HIM be the first to say “big words” to you. Let HIM be the one to secure a relationship. If you press, it is possible to access. But I bet that, in the not too distant future, you will have a boyfriend whose interest is starting to wane. So what should he do? You should reciprocate. You should react. You should reply. Men need encouragement and positive reinforcement. But let him lead.

4. Be encouraging, not suffocating: Your guy may very well be in withdrawal mode through no fault of your own. Perhaps you have a work deadline looming, are dealing with a disappointment or setback, or are trying to manage a crisis. If so, and everything is on track with your relationship, you’ll know. Why? Because he cares enough about you to tell you. Sure, she probably still needs his space; your own time to treat him his way. I think it was John Gray in his book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” who called this “going into the cave”. Your job is to leave it. Men are often poor at multitasking. They have trouble handling several large things at once.

This is how you deal with “crisis withdrawal”: let him know you care, and then let him handle it on his own. Say something like this: “I know (or I’m sorry) you’re dealing with/going through ___.” I’m here for you if you need me.” And then you leave him alone. Depending on the circumstances, he might be hesitant to ask about it again. (Use your best judgment here). In fact, you might back off for a bit; go” to the cave.” Give him his time and welcome him without reproach when he returns. And never force him to discuss his “feelings” with you. If he wants to, he will. He’s much more likely to if he doesn’t feel pressured.

5. Don’t believe the myths: when your guy is pulling away, you’ll know it. You will feel it in your gut and you will feel that something is wrong. Don’t make the mistake of listening to well-meaning girlfriends who may say things like “He’s just busy” or “He’s scared.” Here’s the truth: Men make time for what’s important to them. If he is in love, he will not spend days without contacting you. It doesn’t matter if he’s sick, overwhelmed at work, or studying for exams. No man is too busy to send a quick text or make a quick call to a woman he cares about. And men usually don’t “freak out” because they feel intensely for us. Sure they “get scared”, but usually it’s because we’ve scared them. So identify the pushback. Call him (in your mind, NOT him, please) and don’t make excuses for him.

6. When he backs up, let him… OK. Here it is; the crux of what we are talking about. You know his interest is waning. Keep calling, but not as much. He still wants to see you, but he’s less than enthusiastic. It just seems… remote. Things just seem… off. You’re not sure why, but you do know that he IS; that they are. Then what do you do? First let’s start with the opposite, what you DON’T do. DO NOT go near him. You don’t ask “What’s up?” or “Are we okay?” You don’t start baking cakes or writing poetry for her or buying her gifts. You do not initiate calls or contacts. You don’t make plans with him or ask him to meet your family. In fact, you leave all that. You go back too. I like to say this: if he wants space, give him the galaxy. Being busy. be hard to get. She’s back just out of his reach.

You sure are nice. You’re great. You are not angry, hurt, or disappointed. (Okay, you probably are, but letting him know and getting mad at him won’t do them any good.) But you let him know loud and clear, WITH YOUR ACTIONS, that his behavior is unacceptable and that you are not the girl to sit around waiting for him. And you certainly don’t want to reward their bad deeds with attention (either positive or negative). Doesn’t he call him multiple times when he says she will? Guess what you do? He goes out with your friends and you don’t call him back for a day. (Or better yet, he waits for you to call back before answering.) Are you playing, you say? Call it whatever you want. I like to think of it as showing a man how you will and will not be treated, in a language he understands.

Generally speaking, men do not respond well to women who behave emotionally and pressure them to reciprocate. They don’t like answering questions like “What’s wrong with you?” and “Why are you acting like this?” What they DO respond to is the fear of losing something important to them. Show him how important you are. And the way you do that is by giving him space, withdrawing as well, and allowing him the opportunity to miss you. Pressing it or even giving it the illusion that it’s heading towards it will cause it to shrink even more and quite possibly disappear altogether.

7. If he’s seriously pulling away, let him go: Here’s “type throwback” in its extreme form. Basically it’s the “retreat” or the “retreat” and you’re one quick step away from a “breakout”. If he’s continually canceling plans, constantly choosing everything else BUT you, and going to all kinds of lengths to distance himself from the relationship, then girl, we’ve got a problem. If he says things that imply that he doesn’t feel the same way about you or directly tells you that he needs time to think things over, then you need to let him go. It won’t surprise you that the LAST thing you want to do is try to convince him to stay. Discussing things at length or trying to negotiate some kind of resolution will do more harm than good.

So do yourself (and your self-esteem) a favor: no tears, no pleading. No banging your head against the wall trying to get him to see things your way and from his perspective. No fights or arguments. If he heads for the door, open it wide. What a blackout, midnight, not even a DARK night light. Stay away from him. And use the time to resolve that you don’t deserve someone who is willing to put you down. Do this and the odds are good that he will eventually accept it. But if (and when) he does, will you really want him more? Hmmm.

I like to think of the whole “guy withdrawal” thing as a kind of dating physics. What is that law of motion that Newton came up with? Oh right, here it is… “For every action there is always an equal and opposite reaction; or the forces of two bodies on each other are always equal and directed in opposite directions.” Those science buffs may think this is a crude analogy, but it is one that I can understand and imagine in my head. This is how it works: he backs off, you back off. He walks away from you, you walk away from him. It’s simple, really. But this is what Isaac Newton did not anticipate (at least when it comes to HUMAN bodies): responding to his recoil with an equal recoil will almost always elicit another reaction: he will once again move towards you.

Neckties are commonly worn as part of the men’s dress code, from casual everyday office wear to formal corporate business attire. Probably not all men are comfortable wearing them. However, many, including men, may not be aware of the potential problems and accidents caused by the tie. Neckties, when worn correctly, will significantly reduce the chance of developing them.

Here are some simple guidelines to avoid unnecessary problems when wearing ties:

When wearing a tie, refrain from making unnecessary movements where you risk snagging your tie. These are likely causes of physical injury and even death. For example, near elevators or escalators.

Avoid tying your tie too tight. Not only is this very uncomfortable for the wearer, but would you also know that doing so is actually linked to some serious health-related issues?

For example, if you are going to see an eye doctor for an exam, make sure you have a loose, comfortable tie. A tight tie can temporarily increase intraocular pressure and produce false readings, making your exam results dangerously inaccurate. Remember, the doctor’s diagnosis, advice, prescription and recommendation will be based primarily on the results of your examination.

There is also research suggesting a link between tight ties and increased risk of glaucoma. Tight ties can constrict the veins in the neck area, which can lead to increased blood pressure in the eyes. This, in turn, increases the risk of glaucoma, a leading eye problem and cause of blindness in the US. Increased blood pressure in the eye results in a number of eye problems, including irreparable damage to the delicate eye nerves that can cause blindness.

But how would you know if your tie is too tight? A tight tie is obviously uncomfortable, but it doesn’t necessarily have to constrict your neck and interfere with your breathing. I guess no guy would wear such anyway.

So how can you tell if you’re wearing it tight? You just can’t tell at a glance. A good way to tell is to slide your finger between the knot and the neck of the tie. If you’re having a hard time doing it, it’s time to loosen it up. You just confirmed that your tie is too tight.

If you are in a hospital or in facilitated medical areas like clinics or even outdoor medical missions, it is good practice to avoid any physical contact with your doctor’s tie. It looks like a harmless piece of clothing and certainly looks good on your doctor’s uniform. However, there is a strong possibility that the tie itself is a likely breeding ground for bacteria. A doctor’s tie is a good carrier of disease-causing bacteria.

It’s not obvious how the pathogens got into his tie, obviously because of the nature of his job and workplace. He and his tie likely came into contact with many patients throughout the day, and from one hospital room or department to another. And many doctors are not in the habit of changing the tie from time to time, especially if it still looks clean. However, germs are microscopic. They are invisible to the naked eye.

On July 10, 1973, the Bahamas Islands became an independent nation, also remaining part of the British Commonwealth. The nation started out, with limited finances, etc., and little infrastructure. However, it also, fortunately, started with a focus, a vision, goals, priorities and, in a way, visionary leadership. Sir Lynden Pindling was the George Washington, of this nation, and served as Prime Minister, during the first 25 years of its existence. In the early 1980’s, when he was involved in the management and operation of a tourism company focused on the Bahamas, I had the pleasure of first meeting this amazing person. We had several conversations over the next nearly two decades, and I developed a much better understanding of what our Founding Fathers, and those of most nations, must have suffered through, to some degree. Certain decisions were made early on that directed the Bahamas into the future. These included: 1) limiting the Bahamian dollar to the United States dollar; 2) Compulsory education; 3) A parliamentary and democratic government; 4) An infrastructure plan; 5) Commitment to employment; and, 6) a main emphasis on banking, tourism, etc. This article will attempt to apply some of the lessons learned in terms of what could benefit the rest of the world.

1. Founder’s Mission and Vision: Since natural resources are limited, and the ability to compete, in terms of exporting products, is limited. Mr. Pindling determined that the emphasis should be on education, employment, banking, currency/currency linkage, and tourism. This meant focusing on friendliness, service and attracting tourists, to come back, repeatedly. There were many challenges, but when you look at the number of amazing hotels, restaurants, shops, etc., and the short life of this nation, it’s inspiring!

two. How bugs/challenges are handled: Things did not always go as smoothly as the government hoped. In the mid-1980s, the Cable Beach Hotel and later the Crystal Palace were built, as well as several other major projects, but many of these were negatively affected by the downturn in the world economy. Instead of giving up or proceeding negatively, they faced the challenges, admitted that there were problems and challenges, but continued, in a focused manner, towards a better future. When the largest project ever planned for the Caribbean region was planned and started, about a decade ago, hopes were high, but the original developer faced financial problems, there were many legal battles, etc., but finally, the $4.5 thousand million, Baha Mar Resort opened, and after visiting last week, it exceeded everyone’s expectations! Persistence, etc., mattered!

3. Encourage foreign investment: When the Bahamas became a nation, one of the main goals was to ensure that Bahamian skilled workers were given the majority of jobs, on any project, etc. That nation recognized the need to encourage investment and foreign investors, but also to protect citizens. Great projects like the Atlantis, the Towne, the Baha Mar and others, followed these principles. Many nations and banks have a significant economic presence on these islands, including: China; the United States; Canada; United Kingdom; etc.

Four. Infrastructure needs: Highways have been constantly designed and improved throughout the nation’s history! There is now an international airport (Sir Lynden Pindling International Airport), which is modern and of good quality. The Pride of the Bahamas is real, and has been, at all times, and their flag, as Pindling explained to me, included 3 colors: blue, for the color of the sky and water; yellow, for the sun; and, black, to represent the skin color of the vast majority of its citizens. In a nation, which represents various races and nationalities/ethnicities, there is a significantly low degree of racial bias, etc.

5. Overcome obstacles: This country has advanced, and overcome many obstacles, because it advances, with attitude and focus, or challenges, rather than problems!

If the Bahamas, in its short history, can be, where it is, and, although it still faces many challenges ahead, shouldn’t we all learn some lessons? I have witnessed many changes in the almost 40 years that I have visited and I must admit I am inspired by the progress to date.