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How often do you berate yourself, feel that you have fallen short, that you did not achieve what you set out to do or did as much as others in your orbit? A 2020 survey of 2,000 adults by a weight loss company found that we criticize ourselves six times a week; personally, I think that number is low.

How many of us talk to ourselves more harshly than we would to anyone else, calling ourselves stupid, mean, rude for the slightest mistake or transgression? The reality is that we may have done something stupid, but that doesn’t make us stupid. And then when we reflect on what happened, it may have been that we were stressed, distracted, worried, or whatever.

The same survey shows that 80% of us worry about past mistakes, struggle to put the past behind us, and often compare ourselves unfavorably with others. It sounds like a very stressful way of life.

Let’s consider the ways we can improve our outlook and begin to feel like we are good enough.

– Appreciate that others often use their public face. as soon as they leave the house. You yourself know that even if you only go to the stores, you are likely to change your skin, apply a little aftershave or lipstick. Like others. They show what they want to be shown.

– Remember that when we compare ourselves with others we are not measuring equal for equal. Each person has their own situation, their own history, priorities, motivations and circumstances that lie behind the public personality, most of which we are unlikely to have the slightest clue.

– If you are not achieving what you set out to do ask yourself why this is so. Is it your goal? Do you want it enough or are you doing it simply to please others? Could it be that your underlying goal is to bring pride to parents or grandparents who have passed away long ago, but are not really inspiring you enough or are it beyond your capabilities? Once you stop to reflect, you realize that those family members would rather you do something that makes you happy.

– Be your own worst critic It could well arise from living the dream of a friend or family member. They may be living vicariously through you and very interested in each stage of your progress, feeling free to advise, coach, and criticize. They may feel that they are being helpful, that they are offering encouragement, but in reality they are pushing you towards the success they missed without taking any of the risks or investing in the work.

– When we doubt our abilities, Feeling that we are not good enough has an impact on everything we do. Our perspective, perspective, self-confidence, levels of enthusiasm, and decision-making can be tempered by uncertainty and even fear. This can cause doubts and make us question every decision we must make. Things that we wouldn’t even question when we’re in a more positive frame of mind can turn into big areas of doubt, in case I should or shouldn’t dilemmas. Stressful, energy draining, and diminishing your determined focus towards your goals.

– Accept that failure and setbacks bring your own lessons and rewards. Any new company must test it and challenge it; that is part of the experience, fun and maximum satisfaction. Rather than doubting yourself, begin to appreciate the tough times pushing you on your journey as part of an opportunity to learn new skills and make new connections.

– Allow others to join your ‘team’. It does not mean that you are not good enough if you have gaps in your knowledge. Knowing where to turn to fix problems and deficiencies is a skill in itself. No one can be an expert on everything, so let others contribute their ideas, talents, and input and maybe even discover better ways of doing things.

– Be kind to yourself. Breaks, fun, and free time are a great way to recharge your batteries, and you may come back with new ideas, inspiration, and solutions for things that have previously been troubling you.

– But do not allow yourself to languish too much in your comfort zone. If you’ve been through a tough time with a lot at stake, then sticking to a steady pace might be fine, but staying in cruise control too long isn’t doing you any favors. It’s nice to get away from comfort sometimes.

– If you are aiming for a big target It can be disheartening if things don’t go the way you expect. Instead of punishing yourself and telling yourself that you’re not good enough, why not break it down into small chunks that are more manageable, achievable, and put you on the right track? Remember to praise yourself with each stage you achieve.

Enjoy knowing that each experience, good or bad, forms pieces of the puzzle that make up your life. Invest well in every part of the image you are creating.