Are you a vanilla or chocolate lesbian?
When I’m at the Lady bars (actually it should be just a bar … but I’m trying to stay lucky), shopping at the grocery stores, drinking coffee downtown and looking at the beautiful women, one thing comes to my mind. the mind: “Is it vanilla or chocolate?”
We all have our own individual sexual style and being with a woman is so wonderful in itself that it is difficult to describe or put into words the magic of lesbian love. There are an infinite number of ways that lesbians can have sex, and we have a variety of women to experience sex with, bisexuals, women who enjoy sex with other women (no need to label them), queer women, and transgender lesbians. . Here are some reasons why loving women is so great:
Roles can be switched from one side to the other. We can be dominant and in control (ripping her clothes against a wall) and then completely submissive and gentle (soft kisses and caresses). Because of the way bodies are formed and created, we are free to do what our imagination allows. Playing, changing, and trying out different roles is exhilarating and exciting!
Of course there is the big “O” for orgasm. Women don’t need to recharge or stop, we can keep going, it’s like we are powered by batteries! Non-stop sex sessions are common among lesbians compared to heterosexuals (one more reason we are so special!).
So there is something about watching a woman get off that is unreal and incredibly sexy. It is a powerful surge of energy that can make the darkest days find light.
A woman’s body is soft, so soft that it is where we find security and warmth. There is nothing on this planet that can compare to the beauty of a naked woman, artists throughout the centuries have tried to capture it but have never emulated it!
The best part is that sometimes you come across a woman who is completely tied to your sexual stamina and who is able to explore and experience sex in an open and like-minded way.
However, with that said, some of us go for a more traditional, sweet and smooth approach (Vanilla), while other girls like it hot, sexy and hard (Chocolate). What determines our sexual energy or expression of love? Is the way we strip and rub each other a representation of who we are?
Some people value who you are because of how we do it, but really, how you have sex says a lot about how you feel about yourself. It shows your confidence, maturity level, and intimacy skills. Do you like it with the lights on or off? Public or closed door? Backwards or missionary? Are you just a giver, a receiver, or both? Are you happy with how you feel about being sexual or is it uncomfortable for you?
Depending on how you answer the questions, it will determine how you express yourself in bed and how the other lady will reflect you. Being physical can make us feel vulnerable and exposed, that is part of the process of connecting with another human being. The healthier your self image and self confidence, the more wonderful experiences you will attract, therefore great sex starts with yourself (and I mean it literally too … that’s the next article!).
Once you get the hang of it, the rest is about having fun and expressing yourself. So what do you think you are, vanilla or chocolate? Personally, I’ve always leaned towards dark sweet-sour chocolate!
Alex Karydi ~ The Lesbian Guru