Why men should not have an opinion on the issue of abortion
I had a conversation with a close friend this week who says he is pro-choice, to
a measure. He continued for some time to share his views on abortion with me. While the
was talking I realized something very important – unless he is the father of the
fetus, what he says doesn’t really matter because he’s a man.
It really steams me up when a man sits down to judge a woman who’s had a
abortion. I just don’t see how a man can talk about this at all. why should men
need to establish any kind of position at all on an issue that is clearly feminine by
nature? I know that many are already turning away from this article for fear of hellfire.
Think about it though, there are several reasons why men shouldn’t have a say in
what women do with their bodies.
Congratulations sir, you are pregnant
For example, men have never had to face the decision of whether or not to allow
a child to grow within them. They have never been in a position to reconcile the
gift of life with the invasion of life. In fact, a man can get a woman pregnant and
walk away, which is exactly what many have done. If a man can have the right to
choose whether she wants the responsibility of parenthood, shouldn’t the woman
have the same option regarding motherhood?
Men have never been in the position of having a foreign object growing in their
bodies and being told that it would be immoral to want that object removed. men can’t
is related to the feeling of personal invasion caused by an unwanted pregnancy or
the fears of being a single mother. The female body is used as a vessel for life,
but it must be the decision of each woman if she wants to be a vessel in
that point in your life.
Daddy’s not here, honey
Another reason why men should not have an opinion on the subject of abortion is that since
dawn of time women have borne most of the burden of child rearing while
man pursues his own interests in life. Meanwhile, the wife is tied to the home to
raise the children they both fathered. Men can’t relate to the suffocating feeling
that comes from being subjected to living a life as the primary caregiver. In fact,
There shouldn’t be a primary caregiver at all, it should be a shared responsibility.
However, when the father is not present, the woman has no choice.
The woman knows what it will mean for her personal life to have a child (and yes, her
life matters too). Sometimes changes are welcome, other times the future
it’s very scary. A man can get on with his life, his career and his own interests.
little concern for his future other than being forced to prepare the baby’s crib before
the mother goes into labor, if that much. However, the sacrifices of the mother and
the responsibilities are endless and she knows how important it is to raise children who
They are productive members of society. She can’t fail, even if he shrugs.
responsibilities.
Basically, men have handed over parental responsibilities to women and walked
far. Even the best-intentioned parent gets involved in a small part of the
parenting responsibilities. Women, with no choice but to raise children
since the father is dedicated to his career, or whatever it is that men do when
are not at home with their families, they are forced into a situation that may not even be
what that woman needs to prosper in life. She has no choice.
Does it matter to man that his selfishness may have a detrimental impact on the
wife? No. She is doing what society expects of her and he is doing what he wants.
wants. It’s especially hard for women these days when so many men just
abandon their responsibilities as parents completely and leave the woman completely
just to raise the child as a single parent. Even when a parent is physically close,
many times he is not close emotionally. But, again, the woman has no choice.
two are needed
The reason it takes both a man and a woman to father a child is because nature
He knew that it would take both a man and a woman to raise that child. when the man
shrugs off his paternal obligation, the woman is left with a burden that was not meant to be
be supported by one person.
Many conservatives believe that women unwisely become pregnant and then resort to abortion
as birth control. This is just a tactic used to justify imposing their morals on
other people. Anyone who has been inside an abortion clinic knows that abortion is
always a last resort for women. It is a desperate move to solve a desperate problem.
it is not a routine action.
What is even more ironic is that many times these conservatives would be the first to
take her daughter to the abortion clinic just to save face if she ended up with a
unwanted pregnancy. So they have the audacity to condemn women who
chose not to have a baby because they couldn’t afford to feed it or didn’t want to
raise the child alone. In fact, the guy I mentioned at the beginning of this article
his girlfriend for encouraging him to have an abortion because he was afraid of what his
religious parents would think of an illegitimate child. He believes that what he did was
moral, but some abortions are not. Worse yet, he is blind to his own hypocrisy.
Men, it’s time to be a dad
It is too ironic that while the women have been at home raising the children, the men have
been in politics making laws about women and their bodies. men have used
their power in politics and religion to control and dominate women by telling us
what they think we can morally do with our own bodies. Imagine the arrogance!
Let any man think he has any place at all tell me what is legal for me to do with
my own body! That is why it is necessary that there be more women legislators and religious
leaders
I don’t see men rushing to change societal expectations of maternal responsibility.
regarding the upbringing of children. I don’t see them demanding the right to be more
responsible parents or to play a more integral role in the lives of their children. Actually yes
they did so then they would be entitled to have more voice on the abortion issue. But why
Should they want things to change? They have it done in the shade. if the things
changed, they would have to pull their own weight, give up part of their own career
activities, and going home at a decent hour for the child to expect dinner and a loving
hug.
In short, when men begin to choose to be fathers, then they will have the right
to discuss whether women can choose to be mothers. Until then, men, your
opinion just doesn’t matter.